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writes:Women : Have you ever dated an older man? If you have, how young were you when you first dated an older man, and what was it like? Age gap?Men: Any insight on younger women?I’m 23, she’s 19. I’ve always dated women my age or a couple of years older in one instance. It was a surprise encounter. We’ve really hit it off and I think she’s amazing. This relationship dynamic is very different and new for me and so I’d appreciate some insight from any experienced men.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2008): Thats a normal age gap for guys/girls. I was 19 when I met my fiance first and he was 23.
I say go for it and enjoy yourselves ;)
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 Waterloo? 6 years old? You surprise me...
LOL!!!
I'd rephrase that message if I were you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks a million!
We meet last night and it was incredible. I really appreciate all your insights. I hope they will guide me through this new experience.
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reader, ladyleesha  +, writes (21 May 2008):
 My bf is 5yrs older than me and @ first I was like no, but once we started talkin then 6mo later were like best friends. Commmunication is the key, no matter how much older or younger u r to that person
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): There isn't really an age gap between you two, but there is a culture gap. She can't go everywhere (legally) where you can go as she isn't 21 yet. I can only imagine that would create a stress on her if you go out to a club, she can't go, and sits around wondering about how much fun you are having.My ex-wife was 4 years younger than I and we were married for 20 years. We were never at the same level together ever.Now I am in a relationship of 2+ years where there is a 23 year gap in our ages and it is the most loving relationship I have ever experienced. That's not to say it doesn't take some work, patience and understanding, but we both have life experiences to draw from and we both want to make it work.Point is that there are no hard and fast rules. Personally, looking back, I was way too serious about relationships when I was in my 20's. I should have rolled with the flow more. It is really difficult to know what you really want at that age, much less 19. First decide if she is the one you want. Then figure out how to make it work. But always talk together. Never be afraid to show your soft underbelly and always make her feel she can talk to you about anything. Talking freely together to get to know each other's souls is the key, in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Yeah, i would say thats not really what i'd call an age gap. Funny how people usually view the guy being older than the girl by about 5yrs is not a gap atall - but when the woman is older than the man there's the whole 'ooh cradle snatcher'. Its so daft. Women live longer than men anyway... lol
I think with your age difference it shouldn't make any problems atall. Its not the age but background and likes and dislikes etc and love which keep people together - not age. Of course the closer you are in age (which you are), the more likely you will have similar points of reference too.
I've been out with younger guys ('im 31) as i find guys older than me older than their years - they seem to have already gone into middle aged mode which frightens me as i'm not ready for middle aged, i'm still young! So i find younger more vibrant men more attractive. I don't rule out older guys (or same age) its just i've not met any who i find interesting or attractive.
Go for it - i'm surprised you even thought about the age gap!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): The biggest age gap i had was my ex was 6 years old, and he was so old in his way, seemed like an old fart now when i look back, now my hubby is 2 years younger, mmm much better. But it is certainly up to the individual.
take care
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reader, Scarlettxx  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I'm 19 & my boyfriend is 23 but unfortunately he acts younger than I do which annoys me... ;P but apart from that I really don't feel the age gap. I never think about it in fact.
When I was 18 I went out with a 25 year old. I didn't think anything of it. I kept asking him was he ok with it at the start & he said he was completely great with it. Then I fell in love with him & he broke up with me THEN because he was worried what other people were thinking (ie. his mother & his friends) about the age gap.
It depends on the situation & the two people involved really & not so much on the age difference. I know people in huge age gap relationships & they are so happy together.
People shouldn't make such a huge deal about age gap relationships in this day & age. & people shouldn't care what others think. There should only be two people in a relationship, not two people + society.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): Most guys I've dated have been roughly my age or 4-5 years older at most....I was with one younger guy (9 yrs younger) but wouldn't go there again *L*
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I dated an older man 37 to his 50. We laughed about the things we shared in common, we laughed about the things we did not share because of the age difference. He felt uncomfortable, it made him feel like a "dirty pervert". We broke up, we are now best friends.
You seem to be a very careing man. Treat your girlfriend like a queen and make her feel special. There is nothing else you can do. It's clear that you like her very much and this will be enough.
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (20 May 2008):
 I was 20 and he was 34 ... didn't work out ... I didnt know better ... he knew too much ... sometimes it does work, sometimes does not.Your age difference is not big at all .. its totaly normal. good luck
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reader, Midge +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Well my boyfriend is 10 years older than me. We met when he was 33 and I was 23. We hit it off immediately and we are still together 10 years later.
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