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writes:Hiya, This is two of us speaking we're 15 and 16. =]Okay, we're really confused about some sexual things so wondered if you could help us with our problems.1. We're both thinking of going further with guys, that we like, but we're worried because we think if we let them do anything to us [e.g fingering] then they wouldnt liek it because we dont shave below. However we also dont want too as it doesnt appeal to us, do you think they would find this a problem? [Because a lot of the guys we know do but not the two in question.]2. The first time a guy fingers you is it true that you bleed? Cause we're both quite worried about this one. 3. We're also scared because we want to pleasure the guys but dont think oral pleasure would be the way. This leaves us with pleasuring them with our hands. lol. But we're scared we'll do it wrong. Help.4. Do guys like dry humping?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): 1) at your age i dont guys expect you too my boyfriend doesnt and when hes fingered me he didnt mind
2) i didnt bleed but i dont no propa and wen i did it the first it hurt a bit then afta tht it was fine
3) its knida obvious and the guy can always give you pointers
4) i have no idea bout this one
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reader, love'me  +, writes (16 April 2009):
:)1. deffenetly, deffenetly shave! guys think its rank if you don't and after all who wouldn't, kinder looks a mess tbh.2. im not sure about other people, but i never did. and it dosn't hert either, depending on how many fingers they use and i wouldn't say hurt but you first time may be a little uncomfortable.3. you can't really go wrong with hand jobs but my guys would prefer a blow job.4. yess, it gets them hard and excited ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2008): your young, most guys your age wont expect you to be shaven...
if you dont like giving oral... using your hands is soooo much better than dry humping. If you want to give some KICK ASS HAND JOBS get some lube. Seriously, as a guy i can tell you, if a girl is giving you some hand lovnig with some lube, doesnt matter what she is doing, it feels AMAZING!
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reader, ptownpetey87  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 your young, most guys your age wont expect you to be shaven...
if you dont like giving oral... using your hands is soooo much better than dry humping. If you want to give some KICK ASS HAND JOBS
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 January 2008): 1. if you don't think they like that, then why don't you do it? i mean why wouldn't you do it anyways.. that's kindof disgusting and a turn off to almost every guy. well you can ask them if they don't mind if you don't want to do that.. but i mean come on... it must be a bush.2. well it depends if they break your little thing, then yes it may bleed but just a tad. it won't be like a pool of blood just a tiny bit, not that big of a deal so chill out.3. all you have to do is go up and down with your hand, if they want you to do it faster they will tell you. there's really no way to do it wrong unless you like pull it. and plus you might want to do oral after that.4. well i'm not a guy.. but i don't see why you would want to do that. just get to the point!hope i've helped don't be so worried about it. just chill out and have fun. looooove
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): okay i know you probably dont wnna hear this but deffinitly shave down there..guys think it is so gross it looks like you dont take care of yourself but you can onlky do that about once a week or u will get serious razor burn and that is so ugly/painful/feeels nastyand no you dont bleed the first time you get fingered not me or any one i know has ever bled from that and it doesnt hurt at all it feels rele good if the guy knows what hes doing but even if he doesnt it wont hurt it just wont feel goodand to give a hand job really isnt hard but i dont like doing it either just have a grip on it and go up and down kinda fast i like giving head they enjoy it more (lick the tip and try nd deep throat jack off wen ur taking breaths for a few seconds)and my bf loves dry humping it makes him hard and more excited for other stuff..makes him rally horny haha
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reader, Crisy +, writes (12 January 2008):
 hey there im going to try my best to answer your questions from personal experience.
1. Ok so when my ex fingered me he seemed fine that i hadnt shaved in a few days, only afew months after we broke up he started to give me the nickname stubble, it doesnt really bother me anymore and he doesnt call it me as much, as a matter of fact we atually flirt quite alot nowadays.
2. the first time i got fingered i did bleed a tiny bit afterwards but dont worry lads dont tend to notice.
3. really, i dont think youd do it wrong, just see how you go and youll be able to tell if its pleasuring them.
4. im not sure, i think it just gets the lads a little more excited.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (12 January 2008):
 1) i dont know exactly what guy think aboiut hair but uhm its night to trim once in a while. If they want to finger you they have to be prepared of you and respect your human and you're likely to have hair and if they dont like it then they can always stop, but dont let them do anythign like that unless you want them too.
2)Well first time i got fingered i didn't bleed but everyone is unique and everyone varies so i suggest you follow jm81650's answer and try masturbating and see if you bleed then.
3) right one again all humans are unique, i suggest if you want to give ahand job dont until you know your REALLY want to to please them. Firrst of all gently start just hold them and only move a little bit, even ask for guidance if you need to, (btw dont hold them loosely most guys dont like that) start stroking them a little bit faster and ask if they like it and what they do like and then go with the flow and work from there.
4) Hmmm well. as a giurl its fun to try, yet it doesn't please me as much it just makes me more horny. My bodyfriend certainly liked it yet it kinda had to same effect. I suggest for the 15 year old be careful you might get horny and really want sex --but (this wont stop you im just saying) in the UK the age of consent is 16 so its up to you, but be weary if you do because they guy you have sex with can get arrested for statutory rape even if you consent. For the both of you if you get to a paoint where you want sex dont unless your ready and you know about protection (which im sure you do) and the consequences.
If you need more answers please message me ill mail back asap
stary safe girls and enjoy yourselves =]
Love Raven x
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (12 January 2008):
 guys do like dry i think boys like the little grinding part were you bend down slowly and then come back up while your bums grinding on there dick some girls do bleed during sex but not all i never did and i am young i never bleeded while playing with myself and neither when someone else does so i dont think you would bleed umm oral is ok its just like having a lolly in your mouth that has a flavour you dont like afterwords :P same as foreplay its ok all you do is hold it and just move your hand up and down while rubbing the head as its the sensitive part some men like pubic hair some men dont but if they love you they wont mind mainly the matture men dont mind it but hair is there for a reason to stop dirt and things getting into the vaginal area also shaveing can give you rash's and quite irritable cuts xx hope this helps btw girls if you would like some help with other things im an experienced girl your age so just message me ok xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): the other guy has answered some questions ok but he cant answer the fingering question as he is a guy lol
have either of you ever used tampons before when you are on your period?
if so then you wont bleed.
have you ever heard of the hymen. it is a layer of skin that is meant to kind of cover a girls vagina (but a little inside it) and it is break that that causes you to bleed. however you may not still have this even if you ahve never used tampons or had anything "inside there". PERHAPS IF YOU DID ALOT OF HORSERIDING OR GYMNASTICS.
OOPS CAPS LOCKS. I have never bled except on my period and I have had fingers and tampons up there. Anyway you have to break it sometime and it=f you break it before you lose your virginity then your "first time" will be better
gd lkuck girls let us know if u have any more queries! x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): 1. personally i hate hair down there and get it waxed, and my bf shaves down there, but thats our personal preference.
If you are ready to be doing sexual things with a guy then you should be comfortable with each others bodies.
2. there is a piece of flesh that breaks when anything goes up there, but u wont necessarily bleed, if you've ever masturbated or used a vibrator etc etc chances are it wont be there any more.
3. why dont you want to do orla? gently stroke it up and down, or get him to do it infront of u to show u how or place ur hand over it and let him guide u with his hands.
just explore.
4.err i duno about guys but its never appealed to me, im not a dog humping a leg LOL. but hey whatever floats your boat.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (12 January 2008):
 I'll try to answer each question for you
1. If you don't like shaving that's understandable, I'm a guy and I don't like shaving either. But what about trimming? It is a turnoff to go down there and find alot of hair, but if the hair isn't too long it doesn't really bother me any, and I haven't heard my friends complain either.
2. No idea, if you're worried about it you could try masturbating beforehand to see for yourself.
3. It's really not that hard of a concept, just be gentle, don't yank on it real hard because that hurts. Gently stroke it, if the guy wants to to go faster or not pull as hard I'm sure he'll tell you.
4. Personally I'm not a huge fan of it, it just makes you feel more eager for sex, almost like an act of teasing. That's how I always saw it anyways, not sure if other guys would agree.
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