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writes:Hey everyone! I've been with my boyfriend for one month now. We are both virgins. I feel really comfortable with him and I think I'm ready to loose my virginity. We've played around alot.The only problem I have is that I'm scared if we have sex so early into the relationship that our relationship will become just about sex. We are both the same age and We get on great together. We have such a fun relationship. I am scared that the relationship will become all about the sex and no fun. Please help?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 Take your time with him so you are 100% sure its what you want. In the beginning it will seem that that is the main focus of the relationship because its so new and exciting but as time goes on every thing will balance out as long as the love is there.
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reader, lipsnperoxide  +, writes (4 January 2010):
You need to be sure that you're ready before you have sex, that's the first thing. With hindsight the act of sex itself is often put on a pedestal for virgins, if you've already played around a lot and your guy is still the same as he always has been, chances are sex won't change your relationship in a dramatic way. Sex is probably just as frightening for him being a virgin as well. Guys feel they have a lot to live up to and it can be a very nerve wrecking experience for them. He's probably worried he won't meet your expectations and you won't want to be with him anymore. The first time is overly hyped, what makes sex good is learning about each other and gaining experience from each other. Don't think about it as something you have to do, just let it happen when it feels natural for it to happen. (:
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 January 2010):
It won't if he loves you. Take your time, get to know him more if you want. You said you think you were ready. You didn't say you WERE ready. Just take your time getting to know him a bit more.
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