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writes:My bf and I broke up 2 months ago and I'm completely lost. We broke up because he had stuff to do ( he's in a band and said he didn't have time to treat me like i should be treated) and I wanted to travel. He never wanted to really do the things I wanted to do, just what he did and I happily followed. He just never seemed to want to sacrifice anything for me. It kills me still why I wasn't worth it like he was to me. We brought a house together, have a puppy, a cat and 6 years of memories together. Before I met him all guys treated me like dirt, he was the first person iv ever loved. I am only 22 and I know I'm young. I'm just so lost and I feel so empty inside. I'm petrified I'll never meet a man who will love me like my ex did and I'm afraid of being alone. I cry all the time and he doesn't even seem to care how I feel, he seems to be absolutely loving being single which hurts too. If anyone can just give me advice on what do I do (maybe if this is similar and has happened to someone else?) it would be great. I just really want to know if the pain will go away and if I'll ever smile and laugh again. Thankyou.
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reader, foxy7727  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 I've been ther and it sucks really bad. Its going to take a longggg time to fully get over it. I was with my ex for 6 years and I am 22 also. But we broke up a year ago and I still think about him from time to time well honistly still often. But its always right before I go to sleep. During the day thers so many thing u can do to get over it. It is over so u do have to know that . But keep buissy. Clean write run arrons visit friends and family work out get a hobby go to the movies I found when I was newly single I really enjoyed my alone time. U might not b the same way have a friend go w u to a movie. Start noticing hott guys in ur every day life:) get a guy friend to keep u occupied and to try to guid ur thoughts off of the brake up. Don't listen to music u yoo both liked turn the station. Don't watch movies the 2 of u watched not a good idea. And I can't stress enouph how being around other people really helps. Cause when ur alone ur free to miss him all u want. But when ur with someone else ur talking doing occupied! Its hard but life happens and u can't make someone love u but u can love urself and do what's best for u and move on as soon as possible because when ur ready to date again it really helps to have a new someone. U forget how nice it is with a new relationship. The butterflies the excitment. Getting nervouse. Its great good luck to u!
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Snap out of it! Ok you were in a relationship which has now ended. The next time you sit around crying just think that you shouldn't let this guy's actions dictate what you are going to be doing or feeling one year outside of the relationship.
Realise that a lot of guys will treat you like dirt if you have a low opinion of yourself from the start.
There is no 'get over him quick' pill. You need time and someone to talk this out with.
You have to be strong. Grit your teeth and get out there. Start doing things for yourself. Be great at something you like. I'm sure that plenty of men could easily love you better than this guy.
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