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writes: He is 28 and I am 18 and he has a 8 year old daughter. However our age difference has become a problem for both sides of the story. We are afraid that our families won't accept the relationship. I have tried to mention the situation to my mother. She just stays quiet and ponders about it and she then tells me "you're young and still a virgin. Are you really ready to take the challange?" I answer yes, I love his daughter and I love him.
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reader, zionsfinest  +, writes (8 August 2008):
Hello All,I am a gay man that "came out" just 6 years ago following a 13 year marriage with a wonderful woman who still remains my closest friend. I never thought that I would ever be attracted to anyone even slightly younger than me. Several years ago, I was in a relationship with a man that was just 6 years younger. It seemed to bother me more than him, but we managed.Well - here is the shocker. Just 3 months ago, I met a guy TWENTY FIVE years younger than me! I am 46 and he is just 21. He is not looking for a sugar daddy (and I won't be one). Instead, he has just always been attracted to older men, and was in a relationship with a 45 year old when he was just 18!!I was initially horrified by all of this, but as time goes on, the age difference seems less and less. This young man is by far the most mature person I have met, and he has a distaste for people his own age. He is sweet, kind, caring, compassionate, emotional and just an incredible person.I have learned that we have MUCH in common, and our relationship just keeps getting better! It can be done.... I have never been happier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): omg...that's so weird. I'm 18 and he's 28 too. he's single and we both have feelings for each other but I'm not in the same country right now so we're not dating. but we've talked about it for when I go to his country in a couple months. anyway,I believe it can work. or else i'd be putting out all the lights for myself too!at least you know you're not the only one. just take your time. as long as he understands you're still young and may want different things at different times. you've got to find that balance even though it may be hard becuase of the age gap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Hello there
I've just started seeing a 30 year old, and I'm 20.
We're still getting to know eachother and taking things really slowly which is important, but I think you do need the love and support of the people around you, like you would need in any relationship.
I was open and honest about my crush on an older guy from the start to my family and loved ones, I kept them up to date with how our friendship was growing. Now, in my world no ones surprised about our close friendship and seem to expect it to become something more. Because I didn't feel the need to hide what was going on, they didn't see it as a big deal.
Just be honest and happy, at the end of the day, that's all that matters.
All the luck and love in the world
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): a man 10years older likes me and i like him but now he says that he is going to get married to someone else and that has crushed me. i think that if HE loves you then go for it! :D
hope your very happy together!:D god bless you two
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2007): I don't know what to say. I'm gay and in a Relationship with a guy 10 years younger then me. He's 18 and I'm 28. So, I understand the age gap concerns. We have certainly gotten through most of all the OH's and AHH's about the age gap but there really is concerns about the gap of maturity as one writer stated. I would really examine that closely. This is the most of an age gap I've ever attempted and if things went bad, I'd try to limit my (on the younger side) age gap to five years. On the older side, there is no limit for I am very mature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2006): just don't let him father you!be ready for tough times.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): hi im 16 and im in a relationship with a 25 year old, he treats me with the most respect, love and care! and in my opinion we both see past the 9 year age gap thats all that matters good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2006): hi
im 16 and im in a relationship with a 25 year old, he treats me with the most respect, love and care!
and in my opinion we both see past the 9 year age gap thats all that matters
good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2006): Age doesn't matter; but never let other people interfere, as it's usually because they're not happy in their own relationship.
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reader, Kay-the-Cloud +, writes (11 October 2005):
Don't worry about it. My friend's parents have a 20 year age gap. She always said that as long as you love them, no matter what colour, race, sexuallity and age they are, as long as they will treat you with respect and be forever loyal to you, it doesn't really matter.
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reader, Delila +, writes (11 October 2005):
Hi,
In my opinion it is not age gaps that cause the problems in relationships, it is maturity gaps! You could be in your twenties and be with a man your own age who acts like a kid, or a man in his forties who acts like a kid. There is an eleven year age gap between myself and my husband, he was 23 when we met and I had four children. He is the best husband in the world in my opinion and he has the maturity of a man twice his age. Go for it! Best of luck!
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