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reader, fuglyone  +, writes (21 April 2009):
 Masturbation has been known to destroy a good pitching arm...though otherwise he should be fine. As with any activity of a highly repetitive nature, you should first check with your physician.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Double M, thanks for the correction, which I take in the spirit you gave it.
You are perfectly right, and sperm (semen) dose not build up and can be reabsorbed by the body. Biologically there is no reason for men to have wet dreams, but men have them, without any stimulus applied.
Of course all animals and all living things reproduce and semen is what men use to do this. However, humans are one of the few creatures without a defined matting season. We do not go into heat in the drive to reproduce. Humans can have sex whenever they want, and even continue to have sex when conception has already occurred. So I think I'll stand by my statement, that sex rather than reproduction is our main thing. That's why we have arms and hands to masturbate, something that gives sexual pleasure and involves no reproduction at all.
Other examples include, women who are too old to reproduce and still have sex, homosexuals who have sex but not for procreation, the enjoyment some people have for anal or oral sex.. the list of our sexual activity without the necessity of producing children is very, very long.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 March 2009):
 In order to clarify my opinion on this topic, masturbation typically requires some degree of stimulus, especially for men. In my youth, which was a good long time ago, access to any kind of naughty photography was quite limited. My recollection includes searching the lingerie section of an old Sears & Roebuck catalog for the most stimulating advertisement I could find showing women in panties or bras. lol
It is the opposite end of that extreme today. Pornography has become almost mainstream and widely attainable. Although I strongly support the freedom of expression, including sexuality, I think that too much exposure to pornography tends to "desensitize" some people.
Much like anything else that can become addictive, such as food, cigarettes or drugs, the satisfaction attained may require more and more of the stimuli to reach the same degree of satisfaction. This can mean that the level of stimuli required can begin to exceed what is normal and available in the real world. In such a case, some individuals can no longer be sexually aroused or satisfied with a partner. Instead, they become addicted to a steady stream of fantasy sex, perhaps increasingly perverse and satisfied through masturbation, which is less likely to be experienced and gratified in real life. In that way, masturbation and pornography can combine to replace the activity that is normally enjoyed and shared by two loving or caring individuals. Thus, we have increasing divorce rates or unfulfilled partners.
One correction regarding a physiological comment made by a well-meaning responder. It is not biologically necessary for a man to expel his constant production of sperm and semen by the body. That which is produced but not released within a period of time is reabsorbed by his body. The natural purpose of the production, of course, is to procreate (and enjoy).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): If you don't masturbate, you will still have wet dreams. The sperm in your body has to come out some way. Anon is wrong, obviously god created us with sex in mind, wet dreams (nightime ejaculations) prove this. Enjoy your body and have fun with it. Why anon chooses to come on a sex site worries me, how does her mind stays pure while she is reading?
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (8 March 2009):
 No you will be fine, don't worry about it.
And to the anonymous poster. If you are so convicted by your beliefs why do you feel you have to hide your ID!
I think you need to re-read your bible and please quote to me where it says masturbation is wrong! Do you still stone people who wear polyester and cotton mixed clothes?
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reader, Tomas +, writes (8 March 2009):
I respectfully disagree with the anonymous poster below. Masturbation is a natural process that most people do. Some people associate sexuality with impurity, and think that whenever sexuality exists outside the narrow confines of (for example) marital sex with the intention to have children, then it is sinful.
The common value that underlies this, that I think is reasonable, is that we all have hungers and desires, and those desires can get us in trouble if we pursue them without respect for other people, or for the consequences our actions can bring.
Sexual activity can bring serious consequences, including disease, heartbreak, and children. Thus, being overly indulgent in sexual activity can lead to a world of hurt. And partly for this reason, there are people who will conclude that the best thing to do is to ignore your sexual feelings as much as possible, so as to give them the least power in your life.
The counter argument (which I agree with), says that sexuality is one of the most wonderful things about life. It can bring you close to other people, give you insights into yourself, and feels wonderful if done right.
Learning about your sexuality allows you to communicate more clearly with your future partner(s), and thus avoid a lot of heartbreak. (For example, we've had a couple of questions just tonight from people who are experiencing great emotional pain from sexual problems.) Masturbation is one way to learn about your body and how it responds.
And for young people who are first discovering their bodies' sexual response, masturbation is much safer than experimenting with other people.
What anonymous (and DoubleM) are right to point out is that part of your sexual development is a mental process, and inevitably when you have sex (even through masturbation), your mind fills with sexual ideas and images. In general this is perfectly natural, but there are a lot of unnatural images out there on the Internet, and exposing yourself to those at the same time you are learning about sex can fetishize them. (Think of how baby animals imprint on whatever they think is their momma ... and a duckling can end up following a dog around. You get some choice as to what things you let imprint on you sexually.)
So you are basically at an impressionable age, and if you indulge in learning about your sexuality, you owe it to yourself not to associate weird stuff with the natural good feelings your body will produce.
And recognize that, like our anonymous poster, there are those who will consider any sexual thoughts (at least in some context) to be polluting or impure. I don't believe that, but I agree they are of a more physical/animal nature, less tied to our ethical selves. For me that's all the more reason to learn about and understand them. But not for everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): How the heck do these "God" comments get approved? That seriously DOES NOT help. My gosh, if I see another one those comments....... No no no, I have to behave.
Sin my ass. Go back to... Never mind. (Concentrate: Behave Martini, behave."
Behaving.
Okay, back to OP: The only real side effect to masturbation is the decrease in sensitivity over time, BUT that decrease is very very very very very tiny and only happens gradually.
Back in my teenage years, I just had to touch a girl's skin and BLAAHHH, easy orgasm. Now more than a decade later, I can last forever if I wanted to. This is GOOD if you're with a girl (or guy) who can have multiple orgasms and/or prefer sensual love making. This is BAD if your girlfriend (or boyfriend) is not tight. It might be good for her (or him) but not that great for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2009): Maybe. But I'm sure it intoxicates your soul with sin. Even when most people do it all the time, masturbation will Never be OK with God. Nowadays is almost impossible to keep our minds pure because of the movies, music, tv shows and even tv commercials and toxic friends but that's no excuse.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (8 March 2009):
No problem with the masturbation, but too much porn will possibly screw you up.
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