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writes: Hey i need a little help because recently i have fallen in love with my best friend and i wish i havent because she has been hurt too much recently by guys and i really dont want to say something and join they guys and loose her forever and tonight i told her how i felt and she seemed very shocked as i expected but i felt she was unhappy with me and i am very worried about what will happen between us and if i will loose her because if i did i wouldnt bare to live, i would really care for advice at the moment...- ell -
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs.  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 Hi babes,
Its happend to me twice, im still in the situation right this mintue, my best friend likes me, and i wished he didn't because it hurts me that i can't go out with him, and he might distance away from me, because i'm hurting his feeling by saying no.
And the last time it happend, well take it this way me and him arn't even on speaking terms.
girls feel uncomftable ., a bestfriends a guy that girls no they can talk to and they no there boys that us girls can talk to and muck about with them , and to be honest jump around in our knickers in front of them and they wouldnt think of us in that sexual way.
on the other hand some girls are shy and upset that they can't show their feelings to their bestfriends,
hmm its understandable, that you have feelings for her, but maybe its for the best you stay friends with her, instead of rushing things and wonting more with her, if u really loved her you would stay friends with her , you don't wana ruin the friendship you have between eatchother.
hhope it all goes well.
and good luck with your decision.
Tiierney''hutson x
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reader, britbrit  +, writes (13 August 2008):
 awah =/
hunny, just make sure you tell her if she doesnt feel the smae for you that you are willing to accept it and still b her best friend, just in case she doesnt feel for you and still wants to be bestfriends.
Also tell her and SHOW her what makes you any different from all them otherr guys that ahve hurt her in the past.
give it your best shot...
and sadly if you loose her through that...you noe that you lost her while giving it all you got.
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xoxo
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (13 August 2008):
 i'm putting myself in her shoes. and what i'm sensing is that she feels like all guys hurt girls, but you as a friend were put in a special category. you were her hopeful exception to her generalization.
now that you have told her you love her, she is disappointed because she has realized you are just like every other guy.
i think you need to prove that you can be both. you can be a friend who is always there for her, and a guy who likes relationships. you need to show her that you won't hurt her, that you would rather hurt yourself than her, especially after what she has been through.
and don't push it. if she is as hurt as you say, it's baby steps or nothing. don't scare her away.
good luck!
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