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anonymous
writes:I've suffered from anorexia and bulimia for about 4 years, i've had councelling and numerous aids to try and help me overcome my disorders and sometimes i can improve for a few months, but there is never a day where i don't think about what i'm eating or how i'm going to feel after and despite improvements, it still lives on. i really want to get on with my life, overcome it and move on but i always find myself sloping back. will i ever be able to overcome it? or will i just have to accept how i am?
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reader, mum45 +, writes (5 June 2010):
I ve been anorexic for 30 years, long before it was fashionable,ha ha . I think, sadly it stays with you , i work hard at mine , i bully myself, 3 meals a day, everyday, cos i want to buy clothes (nothing fits lol)and if life goes wrong first thing i do is starve , but at least now i m aware of it , so i try to control it rather than it controlling me , keep going with the counselling and good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I used to get bullied back in school when I was younger which triggered it and then my first boyfriend was physical and mentally abusive to me and pretty much left me in the dumps feeling extremely low :(
My main problem is that many of my councellors have been sympathetic which of course isn't a problem but if anything that has made me worse so i've just given up and not had councelling for over a year and a half.. whenever anything goes wrong food is the first thing i turn against because it's what i know the best and although i'm much better than i was i'm scared that it's always going to follow me, somedays I can eat 50 take aways and enjoy them.. but in the back of my mind I'll be wondering if i should nip to the loo or just stop eating the next day!
I have alot of home problems too and I don't think they help and I don't have too much support.. I'm unsure about what to do with my boyfriend who says 'you dont look good' when skinny and doesn't really support or encourage me because I feel so pressured to look good and stay thin all the time :( xx
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reader, PM  +, writes (4 June 2010):
 This sounds like it's overwhelming you and I wish I could simply say yes, but I don't know that I can do that without giving you false hope.
It's definitely possible, but change is usually a long road. You've mentioned having counsellors help you with your eating habits, but have you had any long-term counselling for whatever the cause of your bulimia/anorexia is? I find that some counsellors will treat symptoms, like eating habits, without looking at the cause of the those symptoms which makes it hard for new habits to stick. If this is what's happening to you, then maybe you should look at getting therapy or joining an eating disorders support group as those are good ways for you to learn about why you have suffered from anorexia/bulimia and how you can work through those issues.
Make no mistake, your desire to move on is your most valuable asset because it says that you want to heal. That is the most common characteristic that I've seen among those who have managed to change their lives and a lot of times, if you want to change badly enough, it has an interesting way of happening.
Good luck and please let us know how things turn out.
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