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writes:I recently left my emotional bully cheating husband, and emotional I am frazzled and don't want anyone else.. I feel it would do me and my 4 children good if I was alone for a long long time... But I wanted to ask the aunts, if I do eventually decide to get myself back on the dating scene, would anybody really want me? I mean whilst I know men still look at me and chat me up and I look after myself, I can't think that any man would be interesed once he knows I have 4 kids?? I have so much love to give the right person that it breaks my heart to think I might never love or be loved again?? I am only 35 and I feel like that side of my life might be over? Reply to this Question
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reader, suzanne1980 +, writes (12 November 2009):
hello there i know how you must feel you have made that step to leaving your bully of a husband i think you need to feel confident in yourself and be with your kids make sure they are happy the right man will come along but when they do you come as a package and they will have to accept that you keep your chin up because it will work out
take care
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reader, Louise-uk +, writes (12 November 2009):
 You're 35 - of course your life isn't over!!
Think of this as the next chapter, which should be exciting. You did an amazing thing leaving your husband, and you should focus on that. Men will be interested in you, especially for your qualities which you have shown already.
Like CaringGuy wrote, you need some time. You'll begin to feel confident in who you are, and men will see this. If someone is put off by you having children, then they're not the right person. But you'll meet someone who is even happier as you have children, and this should be exciting!
Take care!
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (12 November 2009):
 This is your worried voice speaking louder than your rational one. I am older than you (no kids, mind you) but with similar concerns. I personally believe for me than life isn't over. If anything, it's an opportunity to explore the things that I want to, but didn't while I was married -- in this case, recovering some my past passions for art & music that were squelched because of an overly oppressive situation.
You're far from over -- in fact, you're just beginning!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2009):
Of course men will be interesed, and yes you will lvoe again :). There are plenty of great men out there. More than anything, you need to give yourself plenty of time now. Focus on mending your heart and making sure you and your children are happy. You will meet Mr Right. Give it time. Your life isn't over at all. All the best.
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