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*mlizzie123
writes:Im 14 and My teacher touched me today and I don't know what to do.She is 34 and a woman, she is pastoral care and i really like her,I don't want her to get in trouble but she hurt me and kind of took it a bit far, i have found myself falling for her recently it is reeally weird, and i just wondered what to say or do really.I go to an all girls school.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 November 2009):
She can't get you thrown out. Don't go, and please tell someone you're being abused by her. She's blackmailing you, and it's much better to face it all that allow someone to treat you this way.
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reader, emlizzie123 +, writes (15 November 2009):
emlizzie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your responses and i have really been thinking, but she could easily get me thrown out, i have had a lot of issues at school and she keeps showing me her authority by giving me random detentions and she called me today and has invited me to go cinema with her on tuesday night,l should i go?xx
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reader, Accountable +, writes (13 November 2009):
 Don't worry about being thrown out - thats what she should be scared of, not you. Whatever you think she has on you, im sure it isnt on par with this. Report it to somebody.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2009): If it's too hard to tell your parents in person, write them a letter and give it them.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (12 November 2009):
 Tell your parents. You have the reporting information there to use. That's all the advice that can be given to you. Take care.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2009):
Please tell your parents. This is serious and you need some help in reporting it. If for some reason, you can't tell them, go to this website: http://www.childline.org.uk/Explore/AbuseSafety/Pages/Sexual.aspx
or call this number (it is a free call) 0800 1111 .
There is a 1-2-1 chat with a counselor available there as well. Just read the page and follow the links.
This is not something to fool around with and it must be dealt with as soon as possible.
Best wishes.
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reader, emlizzie123 +, writes (12 November 2009):
emlizzie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys, i appreciate it, i'm just so confused i like her lots and she knows some private sstuff about me and she will get me thrown out, i am on my last chance and go to a high grammar school i dont want to wreck it
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reader, Legioness +, writes (12 November 2009):
 Report her immediately. End of. She could have done this to other girls at your school against their will and it is child abuse. Imagine just how many young girls lives she could be ruining! Things like this, unfortunately, happen alot, and the person that is doing it gets away with it because the victims are usually too scared to report it. Brave up and report this teacher before it happens to someone else.
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reader, ali20 +, writes (12 November 2009):
hi, i just read that she fingered you and touched your breasts. This is just totally wrong and makes me so angry that this woman has done this. She must not get away with it, because if she can do this to you then she can do it to other pupils as well. This is abuse. At the worst kind because she is a teacher, she is someone who a pupil is supposed to trust and look up too. Please tell someone you trust or you could try the NSPCC helpline for children who are being abused...phone number 0808 800 5000 where you could speak to a professional in complete confidence. xxx
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reader, Accountable +, writes (12 November 2009):
No matter what your feelings for this teacher are, cases like this have to be reported. I don't mean to offend you or be harsh, but from what you have written it seems hugely likely that this teacher has no feelings for you whatsoever other than sexual, and if this carries on without you telling somebody you will not be the only student she uses her power to abuse.
For the sake of many other pupils who could be at risk here, I would urge you to report this and speak to somebody about your feeings so that you can move past this.
Good luck!
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reader, Louise-uk +, writes (12 November 2009):
 You must tell someone about this. Ideally it will be someone who will take this seriously, and someone who you can tell everything to. A friend might not be such a great option as they might not know what to do, so I would suggest one of your parents? Have you got a head of year? Or a teacher that you can speak to and who you trust? If this is not possible, try and think of someone else. You might feel like she cares about you, but things can get further out of hand. You are at a time where nothing should come before your studies, and this teacher could affect all of this. This has been shown to be the case in the article I referred to before. The teacher is using their position to abuse you, and this is not someone who cares about you.I'm not sure if the touching happens when you two are alone, but try not to be in a position where this could happen. If you are stuck with your work, try and ask a friend or possibly another teacher who also teaches the subject? Please do not let this stop you studying. Take care, and keep follow-upping!
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reader, emlizzie123 +, writes (12 November 2009):
emlizzie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshe fingered me and touched my breasts.
and when i moved her hand she pushed it further in.
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reader, ali20 +, writes (12 November 2009):
hi, what your teacher has done is wrong. Whether you like her or not and dont want to get her into trouble, she is your teacher and you are the pupil. She is an adult and knows what she is doing and is taking advantage. You havent mentioned where she touched you or how she hurt you but either way this is wrong and in no way should she have done that. Is there a teacher there or anyone you can trust to talk to about this? I strongly advise that you speak to someone about what has happened. Please dont keep this to yourself you have to tell someone. Whether that be your parents, a friend or a teacher you can trust.I think you should keep your distance from this woman so she hasnt the chance to do it again and please tell someone. goodluck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 November 2009):
If she hurt you or abused you, you need to report her for your own safety, no matter how much you like her.
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reader, emlizzie123 +, writes (12 November 2009):
emlizzie123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni forgot to mention, for a while she has been strange stroking my hair and telling me i look good and winking and feeling the tops of my legs
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reader, Louise-uk +, writes (12 November 2009):
Firstly, how do you mean she touched you? This can be read in many ways and you need to be a little clearer with this. But as she has made you feel uncomfortable, I will assume that it was in a sexual way.
You need to think of someone you can trust, and you need to tell them. It could be a parent? Friend? Another teacher? It's not acceptable for this to happen. You make think that she is nice, and you like her, but please do not just ignore this.
I read an article on this site, under 'articles' on the tool bar, and there is a fantastic piece on a situation of a teacher and student. Articles is highlighted in yellow. You should read this as soon as you can. It is full of useful information and examples of what can happen. I think you will feel better after reading it.
When you say that you are not sure what to say or do, do you mean that you want to tell someone, or that you want to speak with her as you like her? With this information, I am sure you will gain a lot more accurate responses and advice.
Take care, and send a follow-up with a little more information. I will definitely be checking and will reply again!
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