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writes:A few years ago I went out with this guy and we were together for over a year. We honestly did love each other and we have kept close contact until very recently.The thing is he still loved me even after 2 years after we broke up. I didn't realise I still loved him until it was too late, he had a new girlfriend. However he told me he still loved me, and we ended up having sex behind his girlfriend's back. After a few months I realised he didn't want to be with me and he wanted to stay with his girlfriend.However we still stayed close and I think I have moved on.I have a boyfriend who I've been with for 3 months and he means the world to me, but I keep thinking of my ex. We haven't spoken in around 3 months and I miss talking to him, he was my best friend, I told him everything, like-wise he did the same.A part of me still loves him, and I care about him so much. I know I would cheat on my boyfriend now if my ex wanted to be intimate with me again, and that's so bad because my boyfriend is amazing and he's everything to me.I just wanted to know do you ever fully get over your 1st love or is there always a part of you that wonders what you could of had and still loves them?And will I be able to love anyone else as much as I loved my first love?Thank you
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reader, dizzikat +, writes (11 January 2009):
Each time you fall in love it will be different that's what makes love so wonderful. Don't expect your current or future partner to act exactly the same (just think if everyone was the same the world would be a boring place!)
So while time does heal (cliche but it's true!) you remember the good bits & no-one can take those memories away from you.
My 1st proper love was 11 yrs ago & funny cos just yesterday the memory of going away with him to a hotel popped into my head out of the blue - I'd forgotten about the excitement & anticipation I felt meeting up with him.
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reader, kim6906 +, writes (11 January 2009):
sorry to say but you wont fully get over him he was the first person you ever loved and had such strong emotions with you experienced these things with him but its time to move on and start to experience things with others i was like that about my first love and even now i still think about him sometimes and i use to try and find someone who made me feel exactly the way he did and the way he kissed me and cuddled me but there is no one who could do that its just part of the process of learning about love im afraid for me its been 11 years since my first love and it does get easier trust me
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