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writes:I have a friend that i love. we're both boys. we're friends. we're both gay, just believe me leave it at that it will help me find a better answer if we leave it at me knowing he's gay. anyways, he's not ready to go out with me (i can tell) even though hes really flirtatious. were both in the closet. so he's sweet to me but I think he'll get scared off if we talk about our relationship. i mean, i wanted to tell him i wouldn't tell anybody if we started going out so he'd feel better. idk, he's really sensitive to same sex topics. what should i do? be friends and let him do his own thing? maybe he'll come to me in time? he knows i like him by the way. someone else told him so i didn't get to see his reaction. thank you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all SO much!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 put it to him what you want for the two of you instead of deciding that it can never be. if he rejects a relationship then so be it, you can gain closure and move on. but if you are successfull you two could be happy- why avoid happiness. it sounds to me what you want is a relationship more than platonic friendship- aim for what you want and dont worry about what might happen- what happens in the real world is what you make happen.
take a risk, think with your balls and go for what you want!
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reader, AvgGuy1  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 See... you're making assumptions... about what he might do/say. You say that you know he likes you but you're afraid of rejection - based on your assumptions. Seriously, you don't know what he's going to say/do until you just ask him. I'll bet he's more open to some sort of relationship than you might think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBecause he wouldn't reject me because he may not like me/ I know he does. I'm afraid he'd reject me because he's not ready to accept who he is and start a gay relationship even if we are the only people that know we're going out.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 February 2011):
 If he's not ready to admit to himself what he's feeling, then I think you should do your best to be his friend and be there for if he comes around. I wouldn't close yourself off to other opportunities that may present themselves though, because there's no guarantee he will ever come around.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (4 February 2011):
Ok, So... You KNOW he's gay. He KNOWS you're interested. Why not just go talk to him, as you suggested?!?! Why do you think he's not ready to go out with you?!?! I don't see a problem here... other than a fear of rejection.
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