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writes:im 15 and im heavely overweight and i no i am the docters have told me as wellim trying 2 lose weight atmbut i still im very annoyed cos ive never had a bf and never evern kissed some1im 16 in aug and it feels really stupid that at nearly 16 i've done nothing 0 i no i'm not a stunnerbut i feel so sillywhenever i like a boythey never like me bckive never had some1 fancy meit feels like no1 well ever like me in that wayi need some adice on how 2 lose weightand how start meting boysthanks 2 any1 who replys
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2008): Sure a boy will like you. Not all guys are mean and superficial. In fact some guys may have already liked you. I know this for a fact because I too used to be VERY overweight when I was between like 9 to 12 years old. REALLY overweight and I wore these goofy glasses to top it off. And I remember guys back then who "liked" me believe it or not. I'll admit it was hard to find a guy who would ask me out but I definitely remember guys liking me. Cute guys! It never progressed past friendship but they were always nice to me and looking back (I'm 27 now), I could tell they liked me, even if just as a friend. I even remember one guy, super cute and popular, who I had a serious crush on sticking up for me one time when I was being made fun of because of my weight. I was on a diet at the time and he said to the people making fun of me, something like "I wouldn't make fun of her if I were you because when she loses her weight you are going to think she is really pretty and you are going to feel really stupid." I ALWAYS remember that. And he was right!I lost the weight by the time I was about 13 and I became really "pretty" by society standards. I ended up dating one of the most popular guys in school and I remember passing by in the halls the kids that had made fun of me that one time. I held no grudges, I am pretty peaceful but I remember thinking how much cooler I had become than they ever were. But I never said anything about it. The way that I lost weight was through a weight loss program, Jenny Craig, that I had heard about through a friend who had done it. This was 16 years ago, so Jenny Craig didn't have all the ads that they do now. I am sure you have heard of it by now though. They provide all of the food that you eat and the entire menu that you have to eat every day. The first week on it I lost six pounds. The following week I lost four pounds. The next week I lost three pounds. And the week after that I lost two pounds. So in one month I dropped about four dress sizes. I'll tell you about their prices. Back then, my dad, (who was ecstatic about me losing weight), he used to spend about $120.00 a week on the food for Jenny Craig. And I think the consultations were free (they provide you a counselor who you talk to and guides you every week when you come and weigh in). I don't know if this is something you can afford but I know that that is how much money I spend just to buy my groceries every week just for myself. But I don't know if their prices are the same now as they were then. What I do know is that it works IF you follow the program. I personally needed it because I had no self control and knew no other way to lose weight and even thought it was impossible to do it. So for me the money spent was DEFINITELY worth it. And to this day I am skinny. But the fact that I am still skinny just has to do with my character and how losing weight impacted my life and how I hated being overweight and never wanted to be that again. But Jenny craig gave me all the necessary tools to get started and achieve my goal. If it is something your parents would be willing to do for you I definitely encourage you to go for it.
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reader, mizzbrannon  +, writes (11 January 2008):
being overweight is not the reason why you havent kissed a guy. and sorry if this makes you feel bad by me telling you how much i weigh. but i weigh 106 and i have never kissed a guy and i have only had one boyfriend.and if a boy doesnt want to take you for who you are then he doesnt deserve you at all. boys are pigs so chose them wisely
if you are trying to lose weight do it the natural way.please dont use dieting pills because they are not good for you.
you can try going to the gym atleast twice a week. and if thats not possible just take a walk everyday or mabey try too run part of the way. and try to eat healthy foods. like vegetables and fruits. and try to have balanced 3 meals a day. and dont fill your plate all the way.but DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF. i hope my tips help you out
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reader, Addie +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Okay well like many have said you need to be happy with yourslef. I have always been a pipsqueack. i was flat chested until I was 15, no joke and I used to get teased too but I was happy so I didn't care nor do I care what ppl think about me. And trust me, I never thought anyone was ever going to like me, and it really hurt my self esteem. I will be 17 in August, and I have only been kissed on the check. I love who I am and I won't change for anyone but myself. So if you want to loose weight, do it for YOU no one else. =-) And the guy who is really meant for you ( I promise he's out there) won't care how you look, like I always say, "only the eyes of love can really see you for you." I really hope this helps. Please if you want to talk anymore, message me. Lots of love Addie
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): hey hun...for starters when i was ur age i was over weight...no until i was in the 10th grade did i decide that i had to lose weight and i did it all on my own...i loved to dance, so i would just put some music and dance for an hour each day accompanied my strictly eating less fatty food and smaller peortions....WHATEVER you do DONT GIVE UP...DONT GIVE UP, even if it doesnt seem to work...it will take a loooong loooong time..it took me two years to lose 37 kgs!!Now i am 17 full i am 17o cm weigh 70kgs..you judge if im fat or not...and yet i dont have a bf...so its not the weight issue..its the low self esteem and the low confidence with over weight...when u lose weight ur self esteem will boost u'll start to feel better about urself and stop carry all the time for what ppl say!! believe me i know your probably saying well ur just saying sooo but believe me ive been trough it!! now i am completly different..i have a guy friend who left to study abroad for a year came back this year to tell me i have completly changed to the better...better looks better body :D and a better personalityi do advise you to lose the weight, only becasue it causes problems, but do see a doctor first!! and exercise and believe me you dont want a guy who likes you for your looks and not for who you are!take care!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow! i didnt think i would get so many awers thanks all of u thank u for all the tips on how 2 lost weightive looked up slimming would and thinkign bout thative tried weight watchers and it didnt work for methanks so much and ill keep u all posted :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Heya hun!
Well im tryin 2 loose weight myself atm! I'll support you if you want me too?! Just message me anytime yeaa!!
Anyways, i told my mum and she's put me on this diet:
Breakfast - Special K Cereal or Toast with a thin spread of butter or Crackers with a thin spread of butter and marmite. If u dont like marmite then pick some else! Fresh apple juice or orange juice too!
Lunch - 2 slices of bread with thin spread of butter, either ham, marmie, dairylea and lettuce sometimes obv. not with marmite though! And i have 2 oranges, a banan and an apple. Bottle of water aswell to keep u hydrated.
Then when i come home i have 2 or 3 crackers with thin spread of butter n some marmite ontop. Then i get a glass of water and a towel and set up my workout dvd ont he tv. It takes 45 mins and if u do it everyday iv been loosin 5lbs a week, one week i evne lost 6!
So i lost 10lbs in about 4 weeks cs my weight was up n down at first! Anyways if u want the one i got its called Jade's Dance Workout (Jade Goody btw).
Always make sure u have a proper dinner cs u wont loose weight otherwise. Then dont eat nothing after that.
ne take away a week, cheese once a week. Honestly it really is workin for me so im sure it will for you!!
Message me if u wanna no some more or u need help n support. Il be willing 2help ya :) x
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reader, naturesb +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Hello, It seems you have some really good responses to your question. I feel happy for you! Some people are overweight and they are happy with themselves however in time excess weight can put a lot of strain on your heart, back and legs, It can even bring on diabetes and high bloodpressure. If you want to lose weight but don't know how maybe you can go to your school nurse or parents for a way to get a healthy weight loss plan. I hope you do have someone in your life who can show you. Good Luck
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (11 January 2008):
 "im 15 and im heavely overweight and i no i am the docters have told me as well... im trying 2 lose weight atm... but i still im very annoyed cos ive never had a bf and never evern kissed some1... im 16 in aug and it feels really stupid that at nearly 16 i've done nothing"
Don't put pressure on yourself. If you want to lose weight that's up to you. With anything in life... If you want to do something then do it for YOU.
I hadn't "done anything" as you put with anyone until I met my first girlfriend at 17. For 6 months I fancied her, from the moment I saw her. We used to just joke about and throw vegetables at each other in the warehouse at our local Tesco where we both worked part time. Although I fancied her I NEVER did anything about it.
At the work Xmas party she made a move on ME. I was SHOCKED that she would be interested in me. SHe'd fancied me from the moment she saw me and NEVER did anything about it until then.
We were together for a very long time. She was the first firl I kissed, my first love too, and I was a virgin when we met.
"... i no i'm not a stunner... but i feel so silly... whenever i like a boy... they never like me bck... ive never had some1 fancy me... it feels like no1 well ever like me in that way"
At school I fancied all the nice girls and was ALWAYS "a friend". Other boys were getting girlfriends and all sorts. I felt left out and thought no-one would ever fancy me.
This has affected the way I am even now and even though I'm now 29. I know I do alright for myself, and whilst I am quite confident and happy in myself, whenever a girl smiles at me, I still have that doubt and sort of look behind me as if she must be smiling at someone else. When I do pluck up the courage to go over and have a chat and perhaps a dance everything works out for me.
The funny thing is I've bumped into girls from that school and they've been quite flirty with me as I've changed a lot over the years. I'm not saying I'm some adonis. I do alright for myself. THIS IS MY TIME :)
It's quite funny thinking back to when I was at school and how people have changed over the years. I've bumped into some of the "good looking crowd" from school and it's amazing how some have changed. Some of the "stunners" are simply boring and uninteresting and even "not-all-taht-anymore" despite still having the same attitude, some of the "average or ugly" people (horrible term as I think I was considered to be one of these) have blossomed into attractive, funny, confident and interesting people.
Going off on one a bit now, but I must admit it does make me feel good when I bump into some of the old "hard lads" who used to try and bully me and watch them squirm with embarrassment as to the way they were back in the day at school.
Just be yourself and your time will come. Trust me.
"i need some adice on... how start meting boys"
It's not easy meeting people but I find the best thing to do is concentrate on your own interests/hobbies. You're more likely to meet someone you connect with on a whole new level (other than just what they look like) if they've got similar interests to you.
Just be yourself and people will like you for who you are. There's nothing wrong with the process of "self improvement" as long as you're doing it for the right reasons. Do it for YOU and NOT anyone else.
DON'T WORRY. YOUR TIME WILL COME.
:)
p.s. I'm sure people on here are probably sick of me linking my artcile but, whilst it covers how to get over a break-up, I think it does include some good ideas on how to make yourself feel good. It's worked for me. Have a read and see what you think:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 It is not whether you are slim or overweight, it is your personality which attracts others. Overweight people who are fit and jolly will find friends.If you dont have the confidence and put a scowl on your face always will turn others off. Smile a lot and be jolly and people will be attracted to you.
Before you eat, drink alot of water and you wont feel like eating alot.Or take a spoonful of butter before your meal. You would feel full and will not eat much.
Eat slowly and you will not eat alot.
Have confidence and dont let others know that you are needy.It will scare the boys away.
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reader, red1982 +, writes (11 January 2008):
It unlikely that being overweight is the reason that you haven't had a boyfriend, take a look around next time you're at the mall and I guarantee you that not all couples look like brad and angelina!!People like all sorts of shapes and sizes.
The reason you have not got a boyfriend is probably your lack of confidence. Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities!! As you lose weight your confidence will pick up as will your self esteem and you'll probably find that boys become more interested.
Could you join a dance class or something for excercise. You'll meet loads of people girls and boys and have fun so you'll be more likely to stick to it.
Also ask your mum, sister or a friend to excercise with you - you'll have to do it then even if you don't feel like it because you'll have arranged it. Swimming is fantastic or just a walk around the park if you can't manage much. Fitness comes on really quickly and if you can try to join a gym because you get a personal trainer who can advise you.
I have recently lost nearly 20lbs and that was simply by excercising a little more and eating better. I looked up healthy eating recipes on google and there were loads of them - try loads of different things so that you don't get bored with what your eating, and don't be too hard on yourself.
Good luck honey and keep us posted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2008): Eat a healthy breakfast for a start, something like cornflakes or weetabix, and NO sausage, bacon, fried bread or fried eggs. For the rest of the day, if you feel peckish eat an apple or an orange. Keep away from fatty foods. The doctor or dietician will be able to give you a decent weight-loss diet sheet. Try to keep to it.
I guess you'll be eating whatever is put in front of you, so tell your mum you don't want any food that's bad for you, and you don't want big portions. Stop eating at the moment you feel nearly full. Leave the table feeling just a little bit hungry. Imagine your body is a bank account. What you put in stays in and builds up unless you take it out again. Taking it out, as in food, means exercise of some sort. Put less in than you take out and you'll lose weight. Simple as that.
Then the exercise. A bit of running, starting off gently, and gradually increasing your time and distance. That gives your body a work-out, as does swimming.
Self-control and willpower is a big part of it, so train yourself and your stomach to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Best of luck
Phil
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reader, frizzylizzy  +, writes (11 January 2008):
 Hi there, the best way to loose weight is just give up all the crap your eating and just get up and walk.. Believe me thats the way I lost it.. It's great and you will feel great after you've done it and don't worry about the boys hun, your very young they will happen in time.. did you ever think of joining weight watchers, they are brilliant for loosing weight
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