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writes: How can you really tell if someone is in to you? How can you tell if they are holding back or keeping distance because of them and not you? For example....The guy that I have been seeing now for a couple of months is great. We talk every day, sometimes multiple times a day, we see each other and it is wonderful. BUT...there are days that can go by where we just talk but don't see each other. He has a lot of female friends who he is very open and honest about. Why would he rather spend time with them instead of the time with me? Is he testing the waters with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Delila +, writes (8 September 2005):
My mother used to say to me and my brothers if we started getting really serious about one particular guy or girl when we were young. "Play the field". That meant keep your options open, don't get too hung up on one person, have fun and be yourself. Maybe you need to take a leaf out of your boyfriends book and go out and spend time with your other friends, then when you meet up with him you'll have loads of stuff to talk about and you won't seem needy or clingy.
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reader, pops +, writes (8 September 2005):
Maybe he is too young to make a serious plans with any girl, so he spreads himself around so that no one girl becomes to attached to him? Ask him? If you talk to him so often, why don't you just ask him this question?
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reader, bee +, writes (8 September 2005):
It sounds to me as if this guy is interested in you, but needs a bit of a push.
What you need to do to make him appreciate you is to sudddenly become a lot less available.
I'm sorry to say it, but the old adage still stands: "Let him chase you."
Most people need to feel as though they have put in some work to get a person who stands head and shoulders above the rest. Sounds simplistic doesn't it?
Well trust me it works! make youself diffferent to the other girls surrounding him, don't drop everything to see him - be 'busy' without being mean to him. Always be kind and fun on the phone but just be 'unable' to seee him this time.
If thaat fails, you could always engineer seeing him out. let him see you having a fabulous fun time, being bubbly. Say hi to him, being really happy and cheeerful, then make sure you have to get back to your friends or meet some people in another place - either way, be on your way out of there, less available!
Good luck!
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reader, AsianGirl +, writes (8 September 2005):
 i think that if the guy really want you then he might just asking his girl friends some advice on how to get more close to you intimately or perhaps he just test you like what you've said.. if you really want to know the answer, you should confront him politely.
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