New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"?

Tagged as: Friends, Troubled relationships<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (17 November 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 17 November 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Its just a simple question, why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"? What does this show? Should I warn the boyfriend? This guy is my friend and I over heard this from a friend and worries me. If you have some ideal advice, it would be nice.

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (17 November 2010):

person12345 agony auntIt doesn't mean anything. At worst it means she has a crush on someone else. The fact that she mentioned her boyfriend in that context means she probably knows it's totally wrong to cheat on him. I sounds like a passing, "sigh isn't he dreamy?" comment rather than an intention of doing something. Don't say anything. Ignorance is bliss here about this little crush, unless she actually started cheating on him, which I doubt she is. Plus if she intended to cheat, she wouldn't say something like that.

<-- Rate this answer

A reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010):

It means she thinks there other guys in this world that are also hot. That's allowed you know. It means nothing.

The key words in that phrase are "if I didn't have a boyfriend" well she does, end of story.

If she'd said something like "OMG I want him so bad" or other such thing without mentioning her boyfriend then that would be different.

Don't make a big deal out of it.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, romany United Kingdom +, writes (17 November 2010):

romany agony auntGosh, I wish I had some of that girls confidence, to just say, I'd have him, if I weren't with this one lol.

The fact she has that confidence and is with current boyfriend, tells me she wants her current boyfriend, for some window shopping is lifes secret pleasure, as long as we dont buy, its human nature.

I'd just ignore it, and definately not get involved by telling your friend, not unless she acts on it.

Well done you tho for looking out for your friend.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, No watered down advice here! United States +, writes (17 November 2010):

No watered down advice here! agony auntYou're reading too deep into something thats NOTHING! ijs.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, mystiquek United States +, writes (17 November 2010):

mystiquek agony auntIts great that you have concern for your friend, but I think it would be best to stay out of this. It could possibly cause more damage than good. Its not like you heard the person saying they were cheating, or even wanting to cheat, right? People say things all the time sort of daydreaming, fantasizing, but it doesn't mean they would act on it.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (17 November 2010):

CindyCares agony aunt I don't think it means anything , it's just one of those things you say just to open your mouth and ventilate your

tonsils. " If I weren't with X, I'd make a pass at George Clooney " kind of thing.

I would not say anything to her bf- now, and in general. The least people meddle in a couple's business the best.

Unless maybe if you have actual facts, pictures, first hand knowledge showing that cheating has happened or is being planned- but this is not your case.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010):

It could just be a passing remark that doesn't mean anything, the fact that they say "If I weren't with by bf" kind of indicates that they're not going to act on it.

It would be more worrying if they were actually indicating they had intentions to cheat.

If I were you I don't think I'd say anything. I wouldn't want to interfere with thier relationship over something that isn't too serious.

x

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312722000016947!