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writes:Me and my husband have been trying for a while now to get pregnant, but it just hasn't happened yet, I was just wondering what is the best tips for being intimate? Can you please help us, we want a family but it hasn't happened yet, and just hoping that there is nothing wrong and for some reason it won't happen, just don't want to get depressed and sad if for some reason we keep trying and nothing comes out of it.
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reader, romany  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Mistiquek has just got 5 stars from me, perfect answer!
My mum told me she had the very same problem, mum and dad still laughed 30 years after, when they reminisced about how dad found mum stood on her head, her explanation was I'm helping gravity!! This went on for 2 years, and eventually mum accepted in her mind, it was never gonna happen or at least not yet, and started busying her mind with work and along came baby number 1, then 2, then 3 and then me.
I've heard loads of stories like Mystiques friends too, and I wholely believe the stresses can cause a hindrance too. But I also agree and say go get checked out, if nothing else, for peace of mind all is ok.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Seriously, the best thing you can do is to go see an good OB/GYN. If you've been trying for awhile with no results, rather than guess and be upset/depressed, get cold hard facts. Have your hubby checked out as well. Then you will know what you are dealing with. Also, this might sound silly..but I've seen this happen with 2 close friends. RELAX. Don't try so hard! Both of my friends were close to 40, trying desperately to get pregnant..this went on for about 3 years for each of them. Both of them finally decided to adopt..and guess what? When the adoptions were almost finished, both ladies got pregnant! Is that crazy or what??? So then they were both blessed with 2 children! Sometimes putting too much stress on the act can hinder nature. But seriously..please go talk to a doc, get some tests run. Then you'll know whether you have something that needs to be taken care of, or you just need to give it more time. I wish you all the best!
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 November 2010):
 Well how long is "a while"? If it has been more than a year then you need to see your doctor as this suggests there could be some ferility problems with either you or your partner.
You are over 30 therefore you are more likely to experience difficulties, and if you are over 35 then it is considerably more difficult to get pregnant at that age. So really I think seeing a doctor is your best bet, they will be able to run tests on you and your partner and will be able to advise you on where the problem lies.
Have you researched fertility and tips on getting pregnant online? These websites should help: http://www.gettingpregnant.co.uk/
http://www.askbaby.com/getting-pregnant.htm
There is a lot you can do to try and boost your fertility, and obviously buying an ovulation kit will help (so you can make sure you are having sex at your most fertile). But be aware, there are a lot of old wives tales out there about ways to improve your chances of getting pregnant, so it is best to see a doctor, especially at your age.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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