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writes:The guy im seeing wont add me on facebook. We've been dating 4 months and after our 3rd or 4th date I added him but he didnt accept. I got angry one night and took it up with him and he told me the reason he didnt accept is because it still said he was in a relationship with his ex (I knew for a fact they'd split about a month before I started seeing him) but said neither of them had got round to changing it. He then added me and things were fine. About a month ago I deleted him completely by accident then tried to re add him but again he wont accept but I have no idea why! I dont want to bring it up and cause a disagreement over something so petty but its really bothering me
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): He didnt change it at first because his ex was still up there.
Then,because it bothered you, he changed it and added you.
Then you deleted him.
Could be he hasn't been on there, hasn't noticed you deleted him, can't be bothered with all this FB hassle.
I dont get why its SO important, however just ask him - and look hard at his behaviour see if everything else is good in your relationship, if you have any other doubts about him...
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Please listen to the GUYs on this one. I didn't even have to read your post to know he's playing you. If he liked u he'd make it public. Meantime he'd just like to keep you hidden from the person(s) he's really dating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): He wont accept you as he dont want you to see what he really is hiding another woman or several
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reader, shazz1991xoxo +, writes (21 March 2012):
 On one hand it sounds as if he's playing you i mean why not add ur current partner, on the other hand maybe he doesn't go on fb alot does he update his status regularly?? u need to ask him straight out xoxo
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Sounds to me like he's "playing" you like a cheap, imitation Stradevareus....
WHEN you wake up... be sure to START ignoring this guy.. who has NO INTEREST in you....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2012): "Why wont the guy I'm dating add me to facebook?"
If he does, then the person(s) he doesn't want to know about you will know about you.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (21 March 2012):
 My first instinct is that he is like my boyfriend... he gets on facebook rarely, he doesn't update his status to reflect the changes in his relationship, and he thinks facebook is pretty stupid. (Which, I must say, I agree!) People take facebook so seriously! If this guy doesn't spend much time on facebook, that is probably the reason he has not added you. Or, he just doesn't care that much and forgot. If this is the only reason you are suspicious of him, I think you need to let it go.
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reader, uroboros +, writes (21 March 2012):
why are you even bothered?
it's just a social network, who cares wether you're friends on Facebook or not, if you are together in real life.
if you really want him to add you again just ask him to do it :)
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 March 2012):
 I wouldn't know the reason, but this is very strange.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 March 2012):
 Are you sure he gets on facebook? I have friends that don't actually get on all that much... and with the new configs of it, it's confusing.
you need to ask him.
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