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writes:My boyfriend and I usually talk in "baby voice" to each other, he talks that way when he is being really sweet and wants to show me affection. I admit I haven't been very nice in the past and when he would act like that I would get mad at him about something else later on. Well, a couple days ago he said he wasn't going to talk like that anymore whenever I snapped at him about something but immediately I always apologize and tell him that I didn't mean what I said. I've been really upset and crying for the past 3 days because he won't talk to me like that anymore. I know how childish and pathetic it is to be this way but I honestly can't help it, I couldn't stop my tears. Why won't he be that way anymore? He says it makes him miserable and he feels stupid talking that way... I completely understand but I just want my baby boy back. I've treated everything, from reasoning and negotiating with him and trying to think of a way to make him want to be "sweet" again. He isn't mean to me at all, but he jokes around a lot and I don't like it. I want to be treated like a princess and I want to feel precious to him. Is that wrong, and what's wrong with me that I'm so upset? He still tells me that he loves me and is nice to me but it's not enough... I feel so bad and I want to cry all the time because of this. Please help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 January 2012):
 A downward spiral ?... You cry all day because your bf won't talk to you in a baby voice ? ...Amazing.
Count your blessings. You must be a very lucky girl with a lot of things going your way- if you can shed so many tears over that, it means you have nothing slightly more serious to cry about.
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reader, Killerofevil  +, writes (5 January 2012):
I'm so sorry almost everyone else on here is treating you like trash. I understand how you feel. In grade two, this boy had a crush on me and he tried to impress me by running into walls, doors, cutting his tong with scissors, hitting himself with a book. That stuff. I hated it. But there was this boy I liked from kindergarten. He didn't remember me at all. He was kind, sweet, generous, everything. But he didn't like me back. He kept running away when I went to say 'hi'. And,
in grade ten, one of the boys accidentally came into the girls changing room, and saw my bra. I thought he like me, we dated for the day, then he asked to see my bra again or he would break up with me. He had been kind. He had even taken me to one of the most expensive diners in town! But all he wanted was my bra. Or what was under it..... I cried for three hours. But I have met spoiled people. You are not one of them. I realize this is probably to late but, I hope this helps.
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (26 January 2008):
 THERE YA GO GIRL ! ... Now you are starting to sound like a sane WOMAN. I am proud of you! (seriously) Welcome to the "Kingdom of Womanhood" :) You are at the stage of growing into a Queen!
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reader, alittleprincess +, writes (26 January 2008):
alittleprincess is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand that you guys probably think I am being really spoiled and ridiculous, I know my mistakes and I've told him many, many times how sorry I am for treating him badly. I want to change my ways and I want to treat him better, I just don't know how. I think that by making him things, such as treats or giving him romantic cards, etc that that is enough. I have prayed on this, and the reason I posted this question was because I needed to know what to do because I think I have psychological problems. I don't really think of myself as a princess I guess I'm just used to being treated the way I want and getting what I want from people... but that's all changed and my life has taken a very downward spiral. I just don't want my relationship to end and I'm scared of being alone forever. I will take your advice though, thank you all for answering. 3
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 January 2008):
 Your Prince Charming has grown up and don't you want to grow up into a very beautiful and elegant Princess ?
Maybe, if you give him your magic kiss, he may turned back again into the little Prince when you are around.
You are his Princess and you will always be . Little Princess please don't cry because you won't be beautiful anymore and your Prince Charming will feel heart broken.
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reader, Dangly  +, writes (26 January 2008):
maybe you should give him the respect he deserves first, then you will eventually get it in return. If i was your boyfriend, i would feel so unappreciated. Doing something i thought made you happy, then being shouted out for it. It sounds exactly like my last relationship. And frankly it drove me crazy and not in a good way sorry. You need to appreciate him, be sweet, generous, think about him above yourself, but dont be irratic and pushy i.e. dont bring it up again and ask why he wont say it. Show him you care about him, then he will show you affection and love he feels inside, which you are craving. If you want the baby talk back, wait a few months and then speak like it again, it will either work and he will say it back, or he will be like why are you doing that again? if it is the latter, dont do it again for a long long time. Please dont mess around mens brains by enjoying something inside but showing a completely different emotion. We are very simple beings, we cant read your proper inside emotions well, we take the clues of what you show on the outside. I dont mean to sound cruel and harsh, i just know the feeling of a girl showing one emotion and meaning another, then having it thrown back in my face that i didnt know her true emotions. It just pissed me off frankly and made me go off her. Work on him, thats my advice, make his happiness more important than yours, and hopefully you will get what you wantgood lucksorry if this seems a little harshx
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (26 January 2008):
Maybe he's willing to put on the baby voice and treat you like a princess, but if you two are arguing a lot or if you get mad at him for things, it will naturally affect the extent of the affection he showers on you. As long as he still treats you well, then you know he still cares. Fix the other problems in your relationship, try spoiling him a bit, and maybe he'll come around and start spoiling you again. Also, there's nothing wrong with two people spoiling each other in a relationship. It's not childish-- it's very sweet, to offer each other that kind of affection. Maybe he would like you to do certain things for him, though? Treat him like a prince, and he'll treat you like a princess. Unless he's really a toad...
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (25 January 2008):
Baby Talk isn't everything. If he still treats you well, and tells you he loves you... what is the problem?
You already admittedly said,...." I know how childish and pathetic it is to be this way"..... "He says it makes him miserable and he feels stupid talking that way" ..... sooooo, think about it.
You can't always have things your way. A relationship is about compromise. LOVE HIM ENOUGH to not make him do something that makes him miserable. You DO LOVE HIM.... right?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 January 2008):
 No man worth his salt would talk in a baby voice, it's just plain stupid. I agree with the other aunts, time to grow up Princess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): You should buy him one of those little walkie talkies that changes his voice, like in "scream", but instead of setting it to sound like a killer you could set it so when he talks through it his voice sounds like a little baby. That way he will be able to talk just like himself and he'll be happy. And you'll be able to hear a baby voice, and then you'll be happy. I think that's a fair arrangement. Good luck.
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reader, Sex Kitten  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 You need to grow up abit more girlie - you don't sound like a little princess at all, more like a little spoiled brat (sorry to put it so blankly!)
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (25 January 2008):
 Princess isnt the word. You like being spoiled. If you are being mean to him than how can you expect him to spoil you. If he says he loves you and is nice to you and its not enough it sounds liek you need a sugar daddy not a boyfirend. Try to treat him RIGHT and see if he starts spoling you again.
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