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41-50,
anonymous
writes:When you have slept with someone 2 times and both know it is just for sex.. then why would he not respond to my booty call?The sex was great and he is definately not in a relationship. help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Hi Sweety..
I will tell you why he didn't respond. I will tell you this from experience and from getting hurt from a booty call I actually fell for (not fell in love with.. but fell for).
I'm a married woman with two kids. I met my booty call at work but we both eventually moved on from that job and kept in touch. We both like each other.. get along well and laugh together, and the sex is great! However, this guy purely keeps his emotions out of the picture. When we're together, having sex, he kisses my face, makes me feel like I'm the only woman alive.. but after our session is over and it's time to say good-bye.. he won't call me.. he won't respond to my "booty call" or my texts! This frustrates me.. not because I want to leave my husband and marry this guy.. or live in some fantasy world...I know this man isn't for me.. and I know I'm not a person of virtue since I am cheating. But the point is... I want a little respect from him. I treat him like a friend when we're together or talk on the phone. We get each other small tokens, gifts. But recently, I sent him a text telling him how I felt. I told him i really liked his company and loved the sex. I just wished that he would not treat me like a booty call.. like crap afterwards. I said all this in the text.. i got a comfirmation from my cell phone that his cell rec'd it. I haven't heard back. This was yesterday evening. Maybe he'll call or text back and respond or maybe that will be the end. The only thing I know is that we've been at this for over a year.. and we only have a booty call when it's convenient for him. We are virtually the same age but he's not married nor does he have any children. He's a complicated man over all. I understand your question, and I think I understand your feelings on this one. I wish you luck and can only express to you that you have to be good to yourself. Don't let this person lead you on. Hold your head up and if he calls you, fine.. if he doesn't fine.
Take Care.
Someone who understands in NYC
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reader, CNKlives +, writes (16 September 2008):
sounds like you developed feelings...which is lesson 101 for a "booty call" no feelings. You wouldn't care otherwise..I would leave it alone and try and heal and move on to something more meaningful. Good luck..
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): Usually booty calls mean nothing to the two people involved. They just have meaningless sex. If this was just a booty call and meant nothing to 'you'..then why even ask, Hun? I have a feeling this did mean more to you than just casual sex. Women tend to engage their feelings quicker than the men. There is a double standard here at work, I think. I know this is sad to say...but he does NOT respect you, hun. But he forgets that respect works two ways. Unfortunately, when a woman gives it up easily, this can be the grim result. When a guy does it..he can walk away, with no remorse or guilt feelings. I think this may be what has happened here. And take into account, it is likely he has found a new interest as Pepper pointed out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you pepper27.. he did say that he was not interested in a relationship.. i sent him an apology about some words that were said and he responded back and said he shortened the fact that he liked me and to take care??? please advise
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 maybe he wants more than you do and then got upset because you left love, That sounds more like it..So he feels you may not care so is ignoring your calls, bit of a game going on by the sounds of things love
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses.. did i fall out ? Not sure what this means. .. I do know that he wanted me to stay the night and i just left?
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reader, pepper27 +, writes (16 September 2008):
Hi Hunny
Maybe he has found someone love, He may not feel the same as you, Also he could answer your calls when it suits him there are many reasons why sweetheart dont take it to heart just move on and have fun.. TAKE CARE WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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