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26-29,
*ittlemissballet
writes:Hey, so I need some advice. How do you know love when you, well, know it? I know it's silly since I'm only 13. Yeah, I've gone through a few crushes, like, 'oh that new kid is hot', yada yada. In 3 grade, I even 'dated' a guy.. For one recess.But this guy is different. I've known him since I was three, 'like-liked' him since I was nine. Whenever I think of him... I need him. Whenever I see him, I just want his arm around me. Even more than that, I want his.. Soul? I know it's weird. I'm sorry. But he's just.. Amazing. I couldn't live without him. His smile makes even the worst day better, his voice is the most beautiful melody I ever imagine.He's the butterflies in my stomach. He's the one keeping me up at night, wanting him to text back. He's the one. How do I know? How do I know he's not going to cheat on me, lie to me, steal from me? I wouldn't even care if he did. I would love him through anything.I really can't describe him. I can't. Even amazing doesn't reach the most miniscle description of him. I don't care who his friends are, his grades, anything... I just want HIM. Whenever I even see him talking to another girl, my stomach wants to collapse. But I know he'll never talk to her the same way he talks to me.I guess my two questions are,: one, how do I know it's love?Two, next week we are switching schedules. I may not be with him again. Should I ask him out before that? Will he forget about me? Dating is a big deal at our little school. Well, even if he does forget about me, and date someone else, I will wait for him. Maybe right now he's fine being my best friend.But I will wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): go for it , me being the same age as you i would just aski him , when your our age you pretty much just do anything with relationships coz there nuffin serious to us , so just ask him out :) x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 January 2011):
 Ok you are still very young and probably just entering the stage of your life were you want to start dating. Try not and worry so much about love itself. Instead live your life to the fullest. You obviously care about this boy very deeply so instead of worrying about love as such why not concentrate on seeing if you can date him.
Ask him out, you have nothing to lose and something to gain if he says yes. Tell him you like him and ask him out.
Just remember though most of us expereince heartache at least once in our lives it makes us who we are. So dont pin all of your hopes on this boy. You say if he cheated on you or lied or stole you would still forgive him. But you must remember that we cant go through our life letting someone walk all over us. We need to respect ourselves and allow others to treat us well and if they dont then there will always be someone out there that will.
To your question how do you know that he wont do these things. Well nobody has the answer to that, but you need to try and trust your own decision and take that risk to see if he would make a good boyfriend.
goodluck.
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