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writes:Please Please Help!!!!!!!I am really confused. This girl i like is driving me insane.We are both 16. We are friends and talk alot, but still, i dont want to ask her why she is acting the way she is. Last week, i told her that i really liked her and asked her out. She hesitated for a little bit, and the as soon as a noisy truck drives by. She either said "i really like you" or "i dont like you"(bad things to get confused on and guessing) but i am almost positive she said "i dont want a relationship right now". It was a load place, and she is a quiet girl. i asked her on a friday after school.Anyway, i was a little depressed saturday, and decided not to call her. All i wanted to do is be left alone. She texts me at three, when she realizes i wasn't going to. I am a nice guy, and we are friends, so i text her back. But why didnt it cross her mind that i wanted to be left alone? Maybe she hasn't ever been rejected before.Worse yet, she text me Sunday asking to hang out at a coffee shop on monday after school. She said she wants to talk and i could possibly help her with her math homework. We are in the same math class, and she is clearly smarter then me. Anyway, i said yes, and went to chill with her after school. She brought out her math book after we both ordered and told me what she needed help on, i could tell by her eyes and her questions that she already knew how to do the math problems better then i did. After about 5 minutes of tutoring, we talked for two hours about different things.Now she is acting really wierd. She either bumps into me "accidentally" or makes sure i notice her, then she ignores me. Sometimes she really nice and will walk and talk with me. She will look at me then smile and look away once i notice.Anyway, her are my questions...1) why is she acting this way since i told her how i felt? 2)Why did she ask me to the coffee shop and not leave me alone after rejecting me? 3)did she really reject me?4) should i ask her to the homecoming dance, which is coming up soon? Please Please Help!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): She is acting like a normal teen girl, she sounds like she is focused on school if she is smart and trying not to be too into boys, which is the best thing to do at her age if she wants to develop herself as her own person.I do think she likes you, perhaps she is not allowed to go on dates by her parents rules....if you have an upcomoing homecoming dance, take the risk and ask her...I don't think she is rejecting YOU, maybe is just being cautious and trying to get to know you better....she is too young for a relationship, but you both could be great friends and have a lot of fun at the dance or anywhere else you might want to go.Good Luck, and if she says no, it isn't the end of the world and isn't about you, so just dust yourself off and ask another girl....it happens to everyone!
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (10 September 2007):
 I'd say ask her to the homecoming dance man.And as far as not hearing if she said she would go out with you or not, I have no idea. If she did say yes she may find it strange that you wanted to be left alone, but if she said no maybe she's having second thoughts, or just wants to make an effort to stay friends.I think she's definatley making an effort for you to like her, whether she wants you to like her as a friend or something more I really can't tell.Good luck though man.
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reader, rcn +, writes (10 September 2007):
 She could be acting this way to show her affection toward you. Sometimes it's not a rejection. You could have caught her off guard, and that's all she could think about saying at the moment. Many times people take rejection as personal. Most of the time it is not. It's rejecting an idea stating, now is not the right time. She may be in a round about way showing you she likes you too, after thinking about your proposal. It sounds as if she does like you and I'd ask her to the dance.
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