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writes:I am 40 and my boyfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. I love him and want him back. He is having financial problems and that is part of the reason he ended it. He is basically broke and he said he didn't have time to put in a relationship right now, that he needed to focus on making money and it wouldn't be fair to me.He doesn't feel like a "Man". And another reason is he wants to make sure I am on the same spiritual level as he is. He says if it's meant to be God will show us and we will end up together. We dated for 10 mths and I saw him everyday. I have given him his space but we still talk and see each other on occasion and of course there is no sex because of his beliefs. This is killing me not seeing him enough and us not being a couple anymore. Do you think I should completely end it and not see him? Or see him occasionally and maybe we will get back together and not pressure him? I just don't know how to handle this. Any advice would be helpful.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (12 June 2010):
 If it's hurting you to see him...then don't see him. He has asked for time and space to deal with his problems. Men typically need to have that kind of request respected when they are trying to figure things out.
You should just try and get on with your own life, because there is not much else you can do...you can't force him to be with you. Who knows,if you both get on with your lives and things improve...you might be able to rekindle things at a later date, but for now you need to back off, do your own thing and let him get on with his life.
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