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*weetheart1nonly
writes:My ex boyfriend and i have been broken up for about a month and during this period, he has called me a couple of times, sent me his vacation pictures, even called me the names he gave me when we were going out, "peach" and "beautiful". After about 3weeks, I told him, i would want us to hang out to talk but if he was not up for it, he could tell me no and to my surprise, he said yes, he would want to but he would let me know when our schedules fit.It's been a week now and he has called me a lot of times checking upon me, telling me what he has been up to but has not brought anything about meeting up. What should i do?
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 I have two theories. The first is quite simple, he is still quite busy and cannot see an opening in his schedule, unless you know otherwise.
The second theory is that he is thinking it over in his head. You have to remember that he is your ex and something did break you two up in the first place, how are either of you sure that the same sequence of events will not occur once more? He is may be wondering where this is going and I doubt either of you want something hurtful to happen again.
The second one, in a sense seems rather drastic because, nothing much has really happened yet but it might. There is always that possibility and he might be afraid of that. I cannot be sure because I do not know him but, that is my theory. Either way, you have to call him just to check up, it might even be what he is waiting for, to see if either you are really that interested or if that suggestion was just a passive whim unless of course you made it clear that this was something you really wanted. Call him and ask.
I hope that helps.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (29 September 2010):
sweetheart1nonly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was the one that r=brought it up to him to hang out and talk and he agreed without me forcing him saying that he would let me know. That's why I don't want to bring it up again. If he was really into it, he should be able to remember right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2010): Agreed with cerebrus on this one. Good luck.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (29 September 2010):
You should bring it up first just to see if he has any free time. Besides, if he has not brought it up it probably means he is still busy doesn't it? It's only been a week.
I hope that helps.
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