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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok, so I met an old friend a couple of days ago, that I haven`t seen in 2 to 3 years. And ever since Friday I haven`t stopped thinking about her, I`m just wondering if this could be just that I`m happy to see her after all this time or if just talking to her again after two years seeing her again that I have grown feelings for her. Now I don`t believe in love at first sight so I`m wondering who I could get feelings for someone I haven`t seen in two years. And even if I do have feelings for her, she’s gone through a lot in her life even though she`s only like 2 months older than me. I`m not saying that what she`s been through makes me see her as anything less because every one has scars through life, but I don`t know how to act around her because I want to be sensitive when she tells me stuff that makes her sad it’s just I`m not a very enthusiastic or affectionate. And I'm ok when were normally talking but after that one night after we saw each other after 2 years at a youth rally at church I have been doubting myself if I wasn`t sensitive enough when she told me something that was probably personal. Also she said she didn`t want a relationship because she`s been in them before and they lead only to hurt at this age and that I was lucky that I have never been in a relationship. And I know I can control me feelings if I have them for her (I hope). But after one night she`s been on my mind and I keep thinking about how I could have done better while talking to her. Also her mom is very over protective, the girl is home schooled, not allowed to go on the internet. She got grounded because she was dating, and I can understand her mom getting mad at her going behind her back, but her mom needs to give her a little more freedom. I remember my friend who used to date the girl 2 or 3 years ago told me her mom took her out of the church when she found out the two were dating, whether or not that is what really happened is not my business. And we exchanged phone numbers (she`s not allowed to have a cell so she gave me her home number) but I'm to scared to call her because of her mom and I hate talking on the phone and don`t have much going on in my life so not much reason to call someone. I'm just so confused whether I have feeling for her, but I'll probably not make any move and just continue being her friend because I like being her friend and being around her, I'm just very confused and I don`t want to tell anyone of my friends because they won`t be any help and I don`t want to ruin my friendship with this girl because I value her as my friend and knowing my friends I tell one and the girl is going to find out that I might have feelings for her. Neither of us have face book or are allowed to get one so please leave that out of any of your answers. I just don`t want to be any more drama for this girl and well I'm confused and so yeah please help. (Sorry for the longness of this post)
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