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writes:My ex boyfriend whom I broke up with over the phone doesn't want to talk to me so its kind of like we didn't have a closure which now I don't care if we ever do because we haven't talk since. He went back out with his previous ex girlfriend and because we hang with the same group of crowd, automatically he avoid me and leaves the area if i am near him. I hate that it has been stood this low and I wish he rather think I didn't exist than avoid me like this. Everyone knows he leaves because of me and I feel bad but it isn't my fault that he didn't want a closure with me so why is he acting so immature?
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reader, kelly20 +, writes (23 April 2010):
kelly20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys so much for the advice. I don't try to talk to him at all because its obvious that he doesn't want to talk to me so I am just going to avoid him by not going to places like his friend house and pretend I don't see him when he pass by.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 April 2010):
This is how he has chosen to handle it. He is making a point. You dumped him over the phone, so he is cutting you out. This is what people do. Lots of them. My girlfriend cheated on me and then dumped me over the phone, and suddenly wondered why I wouldn't speak to her. The answer was I just didn't want to. Your ex is doing that. He has made his decision that he wants nothing more to do with you. That's it. Stop trying to make amends for what has happened. You want to make things right so you can be on good terms? No disrespect, but you can't. The world doesn't work like that and human emotions don't work like that. You made the decision to end it with him. He has made the decision to cut you out. Stop trying to make things 'right' and move on from him. That's the best thing you can do.
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reader, kelly20 +, writes (22 April 2010):
kelly20 is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni wanted to explain to him in person so we could be in good terms but he didn't want to so there is nothing I could do so I don't why he has to go to such length and act this way. I do feel horrible for breaking up with him over the phone and I want to apologize but if he doesn't care, why is he acting this way? His friends doesn't like me, I can tell even though they pretend to not care.I would thought that now he has a girlfriend, he wouldn't want to leave a place just cause I am there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Immaturity is when he stays in the room, interacts with you, but gets rude or loud or stupid about it, or invents something to get pissed off about and storms off every time.
He is not being immature by just avoiding you. He is trying to manage a bunch of very powerful and painful emotions the only way he is able to do it right now. That will probably change with time but maybe not for a while. He needs to get some more distance from the relationship first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2010): Toniaa is right, you can't call someone immature when you're the one who broke it off with him over the phone. Personally I'd be livid if a girl broke it off with me like that and would probably leave everytime I saw her just to make sure I don't get mad and say something I regret in front of our mutual friends.
Please don't take offence by this, but in my opinion breaking up over the phone is very inconsiderate, cowardly and cruel. The person breaking up doesn't have the decency to say it face to face and deal with the consequences because they can always just hang up the phone if they don't like what they hear.
I'm sorry but until you talk to him face to face and apologise for the way you ended i and had a serious chat to him as to why you did then you can;t expect anything from him because he owes you nothing.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 April 2010):
This isn't about him acting immature. This is about him wanting to move on and go back to his ex. This is sometimes how it turns out. So now you need to move on and accept he's done the same. And no disrespect, but you were the one who ended it over the phone. You can't dump someone and then expect them to just get over it and be friends. He's probably hurt and has made the decision to move on. You need to do the same.
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reader, toniaa +, writes (21 April 2010):
 hi therei hope i will help. im here to be completly honest with people,firsty you chose to end things with him over the phone so it sounds to me its you who didnt want closure. i dont think that its fair that he feels that he has to leve his friends that use both share because you are there also. could you tell me what your friends think about this? your saying that it is him that dosnt want closure with you but it was you who ended it over the phone. have you thought about that he could still be hurting with the way you ended it with him? let me no if i have helped you might not like what i have said but i here to be honest
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