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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I think your question could be reframed as 'why is it that most 'known' paedophiles are men?'. I have worked in child protection and it is clear that agencies are set up to treat and monitor male offenders. Indeed, the media presentation of the paedophile is mainly as a shadowy male figure and parents teach their children not to accept anything from strange men. However, this doesn't mean there are not a significant number of female offenders and perhaps the criminal justice system is just not set up in such a way as to detect and prosecute them. In the UK, there was a case of two babysitters who sexually abused an infant in their care and video taped evidence of their crime (which the police used to convict them). While they were both condemned by the media as evil demons, the press coverage towards the woman was far more aggressive suggesting rather more horror that a female would be involved in such acts.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I think macboy is right. Men seem to be almost trained to ignore all their purer emotions - they're not allowed to cry, or be painfully in love, but looking at a pretty girl and saying "Check out the tits on that!" is something that Real Men are supposed to do. Lust is fine, but love is inacceptable. And maybe subconsciously the same thing comes through in paedophilia.
With society the way it is, fathers often feel guilty about loving their children. I saw a man in the subway with his little girl (about 3-4 years old), he was hugging her and kissing her, and there were two teenage girls next to me, one of whom whispered "Do you think he's a paedophile?" That's disgusting. It was obviously a case of fatherly love, nothing more, but everything is so warped these days that those girls immediately jumped to a revolting conclusion.
I don't know, it's incredibly depressing. Macboy already said it all a lot better than me, I just wanted to add my two centimes.
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reader, macboy  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I personally believe that it is determined by psychology.
It all depends on the upbringing.
If a boy’s father shows no love towards him, or instead his only love is sexual abuse; then when that boy becomes a man, he doesn’t know how to show feelings towards children.
He sees love for children related to sex and sexual attraction.
He doesn’t understand that a man cannot sexually love a child, but his psyche will assume that he should because of his past.
Every man should love and care for children, a father or grandfather: but when a man does not know how to love children (because of his past), he only sees love as sexual attraction.
He has no understanding of “parental love”.
I think that this creates a paedophile.
::Furthermore, I think that hating paedophiles only encourages men to think that showing any love at all towards your children makes them a paedophile.
So fathers begin to stop showing love towards their children; and the cycle continiues.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 I don't have a great answer for that. It seems to be true though. Men who like kids are on the extreme end of the scale. Whether we like it or not, some things are just the way they are. It's not politically correct to say certain things either, but, sometimes there is truth in such statements.
Generalities are often born out of truths or partial truths. Racial stereotypes, while usually twisted to be hurtful, are quite often based on reasoning that appears to be true. Not always, but often. People usually get painted with the racist brush when they speak of them though. What usually happens is this, people are the way they are for a valid reason. We might not like the reason we are the way we are but usually, the point in question was started out of necessity.
For instance, a particular nationality of people where I live, often have an extra kitchen in the basement. Often they don't use the one upstairs. Why? Because where they came from it was hot and the kitchen made the house to warm. That makes sense. Maybe not so much in Canada but in the country they came from.
So...are most pedophiles men. I imagine they are. Are they a small percentage? Of course. Would a man notice an 18 year old woman before a woman noticed an 18 year old man? I think the answer is yes. The difference is the pedophile acts on what he sees. That is the evil part. Men in general are supposed to be the hunters. Somewhere in the pedophile mind though, something misfires. I can only imagine it is deep rooted and has something to do with a childhood issue. Women are not bent that way in general. They are the ones who are pursued, usually.
It is a good question though and one that can't be easily denied.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (2 June 2007):
 i think the answer to your question lies in the fact that men often find it hard to reveal their emotions and inner most feelings. Men tend to hide alot of things from even the closest around us..When most men have issues/problems they tend to become iintroverted and hide away from people, where alot of women will express there fears and anxieities openly to a friend of family who they trust.
I do agree that there are also women peodaphiles out there, but the media and press tend to focus on the men as it will have more of an impact to the general public. They can be seen as more of an evil figure easier on the eye and mind, rather than the unexpected woman.
Other than this reason which is just an opinion, I dont think anyone knows why this seems to be the case.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): That is an excellent question!Which has sprung thought to my mind that maybe it could have something to do with the maternal instinct that women get over children, there are specific hormones in women usually released during birth, that men cearly dont have, so this could possibly be one of the many reasons for it. Though quite right there are many female paedophiles out there.
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 June 2007):
 i dont know and im not sure yoo will ever have the right answer.. but i found it was something to do with the male testosterone level.. i have strong feelings against paedophiles so i think that is all i can say. mail me if yoo ever want to talk x x x
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reader, candy00s +, writes (1 June 2007):
 What a question...who knows!? i certainly dont.
There are a lot of female paedophiles out there to - your right though the majority are men.
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