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writes:Dear Agony Aunts, I don't mean to speculate but look at all of the single, hot women that exist in the world today. Can't they just find a man to stay with in a long-term relationship or marriage, even an open relationship? Why does seem more likely for beautiful and pretty girls to be sluts? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): in a generation where gossip girl is a title of a show and media flourishes our imaginations with the "inappropriate" image of beauty slutting around is quite normal which i don't agree with. we see hollywood this slept with that and that married this etc etc.. as an asian woman talking dirty alone and being an unwed mom makes me feel slutty. (can i blame the culture?) how do you define slut anyway?
i've seen pretty girls in my country slut around and people would condemn them, however now that i am outside of asia i think it's a common thing to slut around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Maybe it is because some lust addicted guy/pervert violated them at a young age and they have [erroneously] felt "slutty" ever since, and thus acted that way...
Many guys need to grow up and become loving instead of lusting...
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Self esteem has nothing to do with looks, and many girls don't have high self esteem. When a girl is good looking, she will be presented with a lot of sexual opportunities. The girls with low self esteem see these opportunities as validation from males.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): Despite this being a HUGE generalization-one could counter and say, perhaps, why is it okay for men to be "players" and sleep around, while your so called "pretty girls" are deemed "sluts"- but I digress. Attractive women know they are pretty, but they may need to be constantly reassured of this so they go from man to man in order to get this approval or reassurance. Some may also have been sexually abused or taken advantage of, so the only way they feel "worthy" is to sleep around. Family life (ie: absence of a father figure), the way they were brought up, types of abuse, etc. may also be reasons for acting certain ways. On the opposite side of this spectrum, other attractive women do NOT sleep around either. So it all depends on the situation and the woman.
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reader, yussuf  +, writes (27 November 2009):
 From my perspective, i think it all depends on the individual. I used to ask myself the same question and i don't know why society frowns up on this issue. As a guy when we bed a lot of females we get compliments from peers and others, girls on the otherside get called names and in most cases they are categorise as "sluts". Beautiful females get a lot of attention and that my friend is the reason why they might act in such a way, which is fucked up but ugly girls do it too so it ain't fair to blame it on the beautiful females. But you do have a point and i can't argue with your opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2009): There is a difference between men and women when it comes to sexual activities. Would you being a woman sleep w/a guy not particulary liking him physically? The answer will be 'no'. Ask most men the same question, the answer wil be yes.
We, women created differently, we are the ones that bear children, we are the ones that choose our partner. We are are the ones who think that sex is love making, not just a physical act. We are the responsible ones. We need to be courted and respected. that's why we don't act like guys, we like sex ver much, but we carefully choose who to have it with.
Men can do whatever they want, have several partner in a same week, unprotected sex, but we are as women don't have to play alone. We want to plan our pregnancies and have healthy children w/real father around. That's why most of us don't have one night stands despite the fact that we like sex as much as guys do.
By doing it we are not only protecting ourselves but the whole human kind as species. If we acted like men we all would die out from sexually transmitted deseases.
Sorry, guys, but you know how you are
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (27 November 2009):
 Generalizations are unfair and usually inaccurate, but I think it is true that a larger percentage of young women are more sexually active than a generation or more ago. My generation, during the 1960s-1970s, was probably more sexually adventurous than earlier generations, although the period following WWII created perhaps the largest wave of babies which are now called baby-boomers.However, I think baby-boomers are primarily a result of mass marriages following the war and were intentional. Today, it seems the trend is unwed mothers, which is why many of us stress safe sex.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (27 November 2009):
Wow, that is a definite stereotype! I know MANY attractive women who are NOT sluts. If fact, many of the unattractive ones I've known are the ones who are sluts. It seems more likely to me that less attractive women are sluts because they have lower self esteem so they sleep around with everyone because they don't think they're worth much. Of course there's attractive women who are the same way for the same reasons--but you can't just classify women that way.As far as finding a man to stay in a committed relationship with, you try being a woman and find a man that doesn't have his head up where the sun don't shine and actually wants to be in a committed relationship.
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reader, Jay_Jacks +, writes (27 November 2009):
 I think that's a rather broad generalisation. Not all beautiful and pretty girls are sluts. Just like the girls who are less fortunate in looks department, they very well maybe.
When you say slut I am assuming you mean in the sense of 'putting it about' a bit? and not the actual definition of a poor housekeeper?
Why is it socially acceptable for a guy to be promiscuous and get almost praised for this behaviour by being rewarded with the title of 'stud' yet a woman who does the same and is too easily regarded as a 'whore', 'slut', 'slapper'...
It is simply down to the type of personality a person is and what makes them happy (albeit in the short term) as to if they choose to sleep around or not and of course if one is given the opportunity to...
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (27 November 2009):
 okay i think thats very judgemental not all pretty girls are sluts!!
Sometimes it can be harder for because you end up getting alot of attention from loads of guys so its hard to make up ur mind i know that might sound bad but its true... and wat about guys!!!!! theres loads of guys out there that are gud looking but then show off because they know it so they end up having sex with a girl and then leaving her which is why most girls nowadays rather not to be in a relationship
anyways just an opinion soz
:) D.Gx
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