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*lapure4
writes:Hey Cupid, I have a question. I'm really good friends with this guy that I've known for a little over a year. We hang out and talk on the phone regularly. We haven't dated at all, except remain best friends and I'd like to keep it that way. Last week I attended a party where an old guy friend from college was there. We caught up and exchanged new numbers and we managed to talk over the weekend up until last night. I had never spoken of him to my best guy friend (mentioned first) nor had I touched base with him throughout the weekend. Then today he wondered why I hadn't called/texted him during the course of a few days and I told him that I was busy. He immediately assumed that I was dating someone or talking to another guy which I had. I don't understand why he's making such a big deal of it. Why would it matter if I hadn't called him or responded to his call? We are friends right? I'd appreciate your answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2012): Hi,
I think you need to let him know straight out how you feel. Some guys think that just because you talk on the phone all the time or text all the time it means that he has rights to you and that's just not the case. You need to let him know how you feel and tell him you want to remain friends. It's quite obvious that he likes you so you need to tell him you are friends and leave it at that. Try telling him straight out because us guys can be clueless.
Best of Luck,
Soulbrain :)
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reader, _crystalxo  +, writes (10 May 2012):
i agree with the previous answer. maybe he likes you but is just afraid of another man having you. No guy with feelings for you wants to be friend zoned and watch you with another male. he could also just be feeling that he doesnt want to feel left out if another guy comes between your friendship
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 I think he likes you and he doesn't want you to start seeing someone because that puts him further in the friend zone. If you have thought about dating him at all I would talk to him and see if he is interested. Either way I would bring it up that you think that he doesn't want you to date anyone.
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