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female
age
30-35,
*lovebeingme
writes:my mate (guy 17) and i go town and to parks like any other mates, but recently hes started tickling, poking and picking me up, and the last few times ive been with him he keeps sitting behind me and pulling me close to him and he gets an erection, i dont say anything because i know he cant help it but when we stand up he starts pressing his pelvis against me and it gets really annoying, how can i tell him this without upsetting him and why is he doing it???
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (25 October 2007):
 he likes you, but he needs to know that there are some things that are ok to do with you and not. pull him aside and tell him that you feel uncomfortable with him touching you all the time and that. if he likes you enough he will move at you pace. xxxx good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I think you need to be careful here....he is a 17 year old with one thing on his mind, sex, and he is hoping to find you with your gaurd down so he can fool around with you....he is testing the waters to see your reaction.
You need to move away from him if he pulls you next to his erection either in back or pushing it into you, this is overt sexual behavior and he is invading your space. You are too young to become intimate in this way with this silly boy, and you need to learn to set boundaries with him, as you will have to do for the rest of your life with boys and men....move away from him, take his hands and move them somewhere else that you are comfortable with and tell him that you don't like that just now, him pushing his pelvis into yours.....it isn't respectful of you...for goodness sakes, he doesn't even kiss you and he is doing that to you? He is being very disrespectful first off, that is not a great friend or mate in my book....
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reader, sweetnsoursauce  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 well, he does that because he likes you, simple as that. he finds you sexually attractive, and you just have to be honest with him and ask him to stop if it makes you uncomfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): well, if he's the same age as you are then it's likely that he's starting to get interested in sexual things (guys start that at that age). I would recommend telling him that you really enjoy spending time with him but that you want to clarify that you really just see him as a friend. no matter what, i find it best to be honest or else you will lose him as a friend regardless because you wont want to hang out with him b/c he makes you feel uncomfortable.
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