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writes:Hi i'm 20 and i met this guy at uni...for the whole year we've been doing the whole eye contact, showing up at the usual places, small wave and a smile sort of thing and only at the end of the year we actually got together. We hung out and had a coffee after my last lecture for the day and we kissed, it was really comfortable and it wasnt forced it just happened, was that a bad move? i've only had one serious relationship which ended badly for me, but im a little worried he might think i'm easy, which i don't consider myself to be. after we drove around and had a really good chat about how scared we had both been to approach each other etc etc, he said he was looking for a relationship, should i believe him?just a little confused as i dont have a lot of experience with relationships or how theyre supposed to start out or how long your supposed to wait and stuff lol, thank you!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2007): A wise woman. Its nice to see a woman with her head screwed on, no youre not easy, and neither would he want you to be.
The human male brain is programmed such as to want to ensure parentage of its children, and the one night stand will hardly ever turn out a solid relationship, simply because if you were easy to bed, then youre liable to be easy to bed to any number of other males(men talk). This leads to insecurity in the male and hence a doomed or distant relationship.
Take your time, but read up on sex to make sure he has the time of his life when you finally sleep together. Remember there are women out there that are experienced on that front temptresses for the married and comitted man. So if you will excuse my french you need to be a whore in the bedroom. But thats between you and him.
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reader, hmm...  +, writes (26 October 2007):
This is great! You are a great girl and not easy at all. Get to know him better, just to see if your hormones and brain sys the same. If he stays careful and has patience just enjoy yourself.
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reader, tux  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 I would not think of you as easy in the slightest. I mean a year of waving and simple acquintance activities.. and then finally just a kiss is by far being easy.. Now if on the first day of school, the first day you saw him, you pull him aside, strip off all your and his clothes and go at it.. that'll be easy. :) but well what you described is far from it. But to me, it seems to me that you really like this guy and he problaly likes you. My only advice is to go with the flow because it got you this far already and will take you further if you let it into what may be a beautiful relationship. If it feels comfortable, I always say run with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): After a year of eye contact, showing up in the usual places what happened with you 2 was only waiting to happen - its normal! Both of you have been hurt so you didn't want to rush into things which is good...He obviously likes you but didn't kno how to approach you sooner. And sometimes starting off as friends like that is the best way as you get to kno one another in a different way than couples do. Don't worry and stress out about this - just go with the flow and everything will be fine...
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 What happened between you two is completely normal and healthy, and no, he doesn't think you're easy because you kissed him. It was a good time and a good place for it to happen. He's been checking you out for a year, and obviously he held some kind of interest in you.
The way you two have met and progressed to this point is something a lot of people in our generation need to follow. It's natural, not forced, and you two can develop a really nice relationship out of this.
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reader, dapone 1  +, writes (25 October 2007):
 Dear anon.
i think after a year of getting to know each other, this kiss will not be taken out of context, it was just two people sharing a moment together, maybe he wanted to ask you out earlier, but was not sure of your reaction, and when you kissed, he decided to ask you to see if you liked him enough to go out with him,i think this could be the start of a wonderful relationship between you both, if you are ready to take up his offer, and you are happy with him, then you should go for it.
hope this helps.
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