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writes:my ex contacted me for advice on tax (im an accountant) after few weeks of no contact (she is currently seeing someone else). i took this opportunity up to tell her how much i miss her however she didn't acknowledge my feelings just carried on asking me the advice.so i said ""Your not even going to acknowledge what I said"she said "you are making this very hard for me"i asked her how am i making this hard?? Be honest with me do you still have feelings for me?? Do we still have a chance??she said ou know you are!!!! you know what i'm like!!!! will you please answer my questions if you don't want to help me don't worry about it...i'll find out myself.so i answered her question and she thanked me and just left it that.Why doesn't she answer my question of her feelings.... Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 February 2010):
No but you could tell her NOT to call you.
Being hacked is not life or death, it's annoying. She did not need your help. She could have found someone else or emailed the help guys at hotmail.
Tell her you need to get over her and you need her to stop contacting you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, slick4u_uk +, writes (10 February 2010):
slick4u_uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI did take your advice and I didnt get in touch with her at all and i didnt even send her birthday wishes on the 31st but I do still care about her and if she miss calls me around 5 times call after call and then texts me saying for "for gods sake please answer your call" i can't really ignore the call which is when she told me about her account being hacked..
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 February 2010):
Well if she marries a creep then it's her choice.
What you need to do is cut contact.
You still haven't and you are still doing things in the hope she will be greatful etc.
Just move on. If she calls again then tell you need her to stop calling and find someone else to help her with her problems. Perhaps she could ask her fiance for help in future.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, slick4u_uk +, writes (10 February 2010):
slick4u_uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso she got in touch again but this time she text me to say someone has hacked into her hotmail account so i dont respond back to her text since i was busy - she then tried to call me about 5 times but again i didnt take the call since i was busy but then i eventually rang back - she goes someones hacked her account and shes looked online at forums and has had no luck - i go dont worry i will look into it and get back to you. anyway i then sent her a text with a link to use to regain access 6 hours later for which i didnt get a thanks..
anyway around 4am and 6am i received calls from her last night so i rang back asking her why she called - she goes she found out who hacked her account - it was her fiance - he confronted her about me since my emails were still sitting in her email inbox.. she goes your emails were plastered in my inbox since you use to always send me loads of info and then the recent tax advice was there..
she goes she denied that we were in a relationship and just knew each other as colleagues some times back and i use to help her then developed feelings for her which she didnt accept..
i go to her u should have said u used me with your charms - she goes he yelled at her and i go couldnt he talk to u in a mature manner - she responded by saying he isnt you...
she then said not to email her, not to call her and text her and if she calls her not to answer her call until i receive a text from her - i go as it is i dont email u and i dont call u so dont worry that wont happen...
i then wished her all the best and said to her dont forget to send me a wedding card...
im surprised she found it acceptable for him to hack her email account - if that was me she would be very annoyed... i assume this must be since her family are involved as they are going to get married in June and no one knows about me...
Unsure what to think?? Any guidance would be appreciated..
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 January 2010):
How can she "acknowledge" your feelings? What do you want her to say? "Oh gosh, you still haven't moved on? That's lovely!"
Don't send her a text, if you have tried your best then you can walk away with a clean conscience.
Tell her to find someone else to help with her tax return and start moving on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, slick4u_uk +, writes (28 January 2010):
slick4u_uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEmilysanswers - i don't think there is anymore i can do for her as i have tried to clear up all the issues we had and i have told her how i feel about her which she doesn't even acknowledge anymore..
unsure if should even send her a birthday text on the 31st of Jan as its her birthday...
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reader, slick4u_uk +, writes (28 January 2010):
slick4u_uk is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your responses
AMULETCHIC - Whilst we were together the relationship was good, however i hardly use to get to see her since we lived very far apart and when i did want to see her she found it difficult to getaway as some family function was taking place.. over the months we use to argue about this and then in the long run (last august) she goes i am better of without her and i accepted since i felt she didnt make any time for me... so then we broke contact but she carried on keeping in touch by asking me things but i never initiated the relationship with her...
overtime i realised that i did want to be with her and the distance not as important as i thought it was so on new years when i told her how i feel she told me that i was too late in telling her this and only she was now seeing someone.. I didnt know of this when told her how i feel on new years day...
so we spoke about this, i cleared the air about where i went wrong but she said its too late, so i wished her and her future half the best.. and then she started texting me asking me stuff so i told her that we shouldnt keep in contact anymore - so she said as you wish..
anyway i felt i had left stuff unsaid so when she got in touch (4 weeks later) to ask me a question i thought let me tell her how i feel but this time round she didnt acknowledge anything i said... i told her how i loved her, how i could imagine us being married, going for jogs, how i think about her all the time but she did not acknowledge any of it..
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 January 2010):
Cut all contact. She's not interested. She's with someone else and that's all there is to it. You're better off moving on.
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reader, loops +, writes (27 January 2010):
i agree with emilysanswers because she's with someone else and she doesn't want to get into that kind of conversation with you.
Personally in any kind of situation involving someone elses feelings i tend to be blunt and honest because it avoids future confusion, but some people just like to avoid answering all together she is just one of those people.
It must be hard for you if you still have feelings for her, but your best bet is to cut all contact until you can be 'just friends' otherwise your just going to torture yourself and it really isn't worth going through that kind of pain. cutting all contact means cutting all contact, social networking, the lot. She is with someone else, whether she has feelings for you or not its irrelevant in the here and now she only sees you as a friend, nothing more, and you obviously dont.
Situations like that always end up with the person who still has feelings getting seriously hurt, and not moving on from the other. give yourself some space and time to heal, and when you KNOW 100 percent that you can just be her friend, then go for it and keep a friendship with her, but till then your just going to cause yourself unnessacary pain, she can get tax advice from someone else!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 January 2010):
Because she's seeing SOMEONE ELSE!
She probably still cares about you and may still find you attractive, but that doesn't mean she wants to be with you.
She probably doesn't know how she feels and doesn't really want to chat about it with you in the middle of her tax return when she's trying to move on.
Why do you need to know anyway? If you want her back then go and make some effort. Fix the problems that caused the break up and then do something amazing.
It may not work but you can't just say "yes the deadline is 31st of april and section 4 is your outgoings minus your tax and break up with your new boyfriend please."
Leave her to it if she's moved on or try something more than demanding to know her exact feelings at that moment if you want her back.
Good Luck!! xx
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