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writes:So im 14 and im not interested in having sex at this young of an age, ive only had 1 boyfriend, the most ive ever done with him was dance or hug, no kisses, i didnt really like him either. but i really started liking this boy recently, and he asked me how far i would go, i really liked him, and he said he really liked me too, then he asked that, and i told him i didnt want to be a slut, and he got mad at me. then shortly after that he started being nice again and said he was sorry and didnt want to force me into anything. since then ive had a boy try to put his hand in my pants, one said that i probably taste good, and another said he'd pay me if i let him eat me, i really didnt want to. i want to kiss someone but no boys have ever asked me out since the first one. i never considered myself to be pretty before, i dont know why all these boys want me so bad. by the way ive never had an alcoholic drink before or smoke anything. im really straight edge.
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reader, sandiego619  +, writes (28 January 2010):
 I have to agree with all of the other posters here so far. I know im pretty young too, and it may seem like i dont know what im talking about, but i do know, from being a guy and knowing how alot of my friends are, that taht is what most guys at this age want. You must be attractive for guys to be wanting you in that way. And its good for you to be sticking up for yourself. There are guys out there that are looking for girls like you, wh respect themselves in that way. Dont keep them trying to convince you to do something you dont want by giving them vague answers, instead just tell them straight out that is not what you want to do. Its kinda hard to find girls like you now days, and im very thankful i found someone like that, and whoever you find im sure theyll be really thankful as well. Find someone whos waiting for that special someone like you, who wont bring that up soon into a relationship and its not all theyre seeking for, but instead improve the relationship and get to know each other better before making any decisions like that. Im sorry for this being soo long, i didnt expect it too, and also sorry if it doesnt help. But hopefully i was of some help to you. No matter what though, stay on the path you are and eventually youll find a guy who is worthy of having you. :)
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 January 2010):
Well you stay good. The thing about 90% of young guys is they're only interested in one thing. Sex. And from what you're saying all these guys are just after using you and probably most other girls as well. Keep your high standards and you'll meet a far better guy as you grow up even more. Just keep saying no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2010): OK listen and listen carefully. Guys will say anything to get you to sleep with them and it doesn't change the older you get. I had the same problem when I was younger and I learned very quickly that it doesn't matter what you do with a guy, you are only 14 and within the next month, he will move on to another girl anyway. That leaves you feeling used and hurt. Besides do you really want him running and telling people(which he more than likely will do) that you are "easy" because you allowed him to do these things to you. Boy's hormones are raging right now and they think that if they speak to you in that kind of a way, you will see how much they really like you. My suggestion, if this guy really likes you he will back off and allow things to happen at your pace. Tell him you are not ready to do what he wants and that if can't accept that then hit the road. You will find someone eventually who is going to find YOU interesting and fun and pretty and not what is between your legs. If they get nasty say, "you're 14, you wouldn't know what to do with it even if I did give it up." That should shut him up. Good luck and remember to stay true to yourself, giving up your virginity only happens once. You want it to be with someone you love and who loves you equally.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (27 January 2010):
 Your conscience is already telling you it's not right... NEVER let any boy talk you into doing something you're not ready for, besides, if a guy really likes and respects you he would never ask you such a question. If any boy ever does, then let them know that you value yourself and your body and would never even think about doing such things and going "all the way" at such a young age. And if any guy even tries to put his hands in your pants again then slap him as hard as you can and tell him to go take a hike!!! You will hear your friends bragging about having sex and going all the way etc but don't feel you have to. Get to know a boy first, be his friend, hang around and do things together. When the time is right to go further then you won't have to ask anyone, you'll know.
Your body is changing and you're becoming a woman now, your shape is changing into that of a woman and boys will notice this. Be proud of your body and who you are and NEVER give in to anyone out of peer pressure. Guys will look up to you and respect you more for it, trust me!
~Eve~
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