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*andy2501
writes:Why doesnt it feel good when he rubs my clitoritis? its like he'll be fingering me and try it and people say it feels like amazing and with me it just sorta tickels like it make my legs twitch and I cant take it because it sorta hurts. I dont get why it doesnt feel good when my friends say it feels great
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reader, candy2501 +, writes (24 May 2010):
candy2501 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u for all your ans ;D it has been a great help
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 he is too young to know how to do it right u need to tell him where do you like it then it'll feel great :)
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reader, BeSimplyTrue +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Everyone is different; you need to find what feels nice for you. You can explore by yourself (probably the best option) or you could talk with him about what feels good while the two of you explore. It could be sexy and sweet, but sometimes a guy will take offense if he thinks his technique is being dissed. So maybe by yourself is best.
Like others said, the sensation may be too much for you. You may need to work up to letting him touch your clitoris. Try gently touching other parts of that area, maybe dip your fingers inside if that feels right, before you go for the clitoris itself. Sorry if that's too graphic, but I don't know how else to explain it. Also, make sure you and your guy have been kissing and touching each other all over so you're really relaxed and feeling sexual! Getting in the mood might really help. Good luck!
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reader, LilPixie  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Try masturbating. Find the spots that feel good and the ones that you don't like being touched.
I've got one spot that feels amazing, but if my bf moves just a little to the side i get the same that you have.
Also, it might be that he is putting more pressure onto your clit than needed, try to get him to be a little gentler.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Because most men don't know how to touch a clitoris (they don't have one after all). Also, every woman is very different in how they want to be touched. Do you know how you want to be touched? You can't expect it to feel good when he does it if you don't know yourself. I recommend you spend some time masturbating and figure out what it is that you like exactly. Then show him and then direct his hands. Be vocal with him, tell him what you like and dislike (a quick less pressure, faster, etc...).
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2010):
 Because many men don't know how to do it in general and don't know how you would like it in particular.
You have to explore your body and find out what works for you- which angle, pressuure, speed, - and then show him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): Hey there. The problem could be that he is touching your clitoris directly. Most girls can't touch their clit directly because it has too many nerves and it is too sensitive, so it starts hurting and becomes unbearable. It is better to rub lightly over the clitoral hood, but you should explore by yourself when you are masturbating and see what you like, then you can tell your boyfriend and show him how to do it.
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