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writes:This guy that I've known since last September has been weird. Last monday through wednesday he was ignoring me and not talking to me. Then Thursday he was smiling at me and talking to me on the bus. Friday during shop he was staring at me from across the room and talking about me but on the bus he didn't talk to me much. It seems like he goes from I like you to ignoring person. Its driving me Nuts. What should I do?I really like him and we have been friends and he texts me on occasion. He talks to his friends sometimes and barely notices me. Its like hes one person then hes a totally different person. I like talking to him and hes a charmer. Hes very selective on when he wants to talk to me. He keeps telling me that were friends and he doesn't hate me and isn't mad at me.Whats wrong with him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): You know, it's possible all of this has to do with things going on in his life that has nothing to do with you? Often, when we like someone like you like him, it's tempting to think that they are thinking about you just as much but that's not often the case. He's not talking to you much and not making much effort to be around you a lot so I would think his energy is focused elsewhere.
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reader, Original shiraz!  +, writes (9 May 2009):
Firstly who gave him the right to be in control?! This behavoir is seriously out of order and i dont know how youve stood for it for so long without a word to him! In your own words 'hes very selective on when he wants to talk to me' thats not a friend, not one worth having anyway. He has no right to treat you this way and you really shouldnt stand for it, your aware of his character and know what sort of person he is and how he can be so why let yourself contiue the cycle? its unfair on yourself, hes showing you no respect and is getting away with it time and time again, id tell him until he stopped his immature ways and started acting like a real guy would then i dont want much to do with him. Take control for a bit, this guy is wel aware he has you wrapped round his finger and thats a unhealthy relationship friendship etc... you need to have the balance and to know where you stand, if he wont give you that then your well within your rights to walk away, i mean who does that sort of thing for no reason? i dont think talking would help here, just tell him out straight that youve had enough of his strange and unpredictable ways. He probably knows hes in the wrong but you need a reason as to why hed continue this. He may well be telling friends hes not mad at you etc but why not tell you! why not explain to you why he acts this way? I hope you find all your answers and handle the situation your way, best of luck.
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reader, niki20 +, writes (9 May 2009):
 is it possible he likes you more then you think? guys do weird things to get attention. and he did get yours. talk to him about it.
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