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writes:well i have a problem is about me and my ex-boyfriend. well he is going to graduate this year and im going into my junior year. nd well he had broken up with me bcuz he had to go to the army nd well i dont know, bcuz we still have feelings but im not sure if both of us are ready to take our relationship another step. well i know i have to talk to him bout it but im scared. my question is: is it really worth having a boyfriend in the army without knowing how they are or where they are? or having to wait until you hear from him? i dont know which one is worst. bcuz i want to be with him but im not sure if we are going to last. i will appreciate it if you guys will answer this questions. thnx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your help. and i guess its just all uo to us, am really scared and sad because tomorrow the 20th he is graduating but am also happy. its just sad and happy at the same time thank you so much, and well i huess all just tell you guys what happens later on. thx and bye!
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reader, ArmyMedic  +, writes (13 May 2009):
 He doesn't "Have" to join the Army he has chosen to! You won't know the answer to this till you have tried, but in my experience (12 years in the Army) it takes a very special girl to be able to put up with service life!
The army isn't just a job, it's a life style and you have to realise that the Army will always come first. He will be told on a Thursday or Friday that he can't come and see you at the weekend because the Army needs him, and no matter how upset this makes you, there is nothing he can do about it.
So if you are willing to be flexible and to hardly ever see him, and love him no matter what happens, give it a try.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries +, writes (13 May 2009):
 hun i had a boyfriend in the army.and i know what you're feeling he recently went to Afgahn and i had no way of contacting him i was constantly wondering how he was!what he was doing.i loved him very much but it did kill me so much not knowing i couldn't write or anything.i wouldn't risk it to be honest.it's really difficult because you feel you can't do anything with your life but wonder about them and stuff.you're still young and still have alot ahead of you.stay as good friends though but relationship with army guys are not really the best idea to be honest.it's the constant wher are they how are they? and you can't do anything but wait and it's frustrating.hope this helps hun message me if you need anymore information about this :) will be more than happy to help.x x x x
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (13 May 2009):
 I have never been in such a situation, so can't give an answer based on experience, but I do know that when you love someone, there are always tests and obstacles throughout your relationship. This is a very difficult time. I have a good friend from college who has a boyfriend that's in the military. They've been together for many years and he's been shipped back and forth from Iraq and I would talk to her and comfort her cause she was always so nervous and scared for him. They had even discussed marriage and she told me point-blank that she loves him but didn't know if she'd be able to be in such a relationship where she was in constant worry and fear for his life. All I can say is just trust your gut. If you truly love him, your love will overcome this difficult time. And if there's a way the two of you can somehow keep in contact, even better. That way he can let you know that he is okay and it will put your mind at ease.Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): My boyfriend is going into the marines in 6 months and we are planning on waiting for each other for however long it takes. He just graduated college and I’m a sophomore in college. Depending on the relationship and how much you guys care for each other should be the deciding factor on whether or not you want stay together, not the time apart.
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