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writes:My partner and I have been together 2 years we have a one year old daughter (he told me he could not have children) things have not been right for a long time and I don't know what I have done wrong, he tells me I need to change, criticises the way I look and dress. One minute he says we are together the next he tells people we are finished. I am waiting to get housing association house so I can leave as I cannot afford to otherwise, what I want to know is why does he keep playing with my feeling, and saying maybe if I give him space we might be together, why won't he just leave and let me move on?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 Why do you even ask yourself this question. Why don't YOU just leave him and move on with your life, whether he likes it or not. Do you enjoy having your feelings toyed with ?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (12 September 2011):
 He is trying to gain more control in the relationship by guilt tripping you into giving him his way as a penance for past wrongs, real or imagined.
It may also be that he wants more freedom in the relationship or to be out of it altogether, but is too insecure to end it completely. By keeping you guessing like this he can turn the relationship on when he needs it and off when he doesn't.
The primary goal isn't to hurt you but to get his way. Hurting you is just the means to an end.
Get your ducks in a row and get out of this situation as soon as you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2011): He sounds like a bit of a control freak... you sure fitted a lot in in the 2 years you have been together tooYes,he should be the one to leave, you have a child and need the home but I think he's waiting to see if he can find a 'replacement' g/f to go to. I could be wrong but it would explain telling people you are split up then saying your not.Housing Association have a long waiting list so it could be ages before you can leave and the atmosphere can't be good for your daughter. Is it rented your in with a shared lease at the moment? I would get some legal advice, see where you stand with the home soon as you can,show him you want to end the relationship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 He keeps "playing with your feelings"... because YOU allow it. IF you and he are finished, then BE FINISHED and get on with your life....
Good luck...
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reader, babygirllovej +, writes (11 September 2011):
 He won't leave you alone because he is having too much fun playing head games. Ignore him and his petty games and move out as soon as you can.
Good Luck!
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