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writes:My ex girlfriend recently moved a couple of blocks down from me , she dumped twice over the last 3 years to go back to her ex,the last time was 2 years ago. She had been seeing him while she was still with me. All the time we were together I felt she was the right one, but both times we werer together was only several months. I met my girlfriend whi im with now 10 days after the split, she loves me dearly, I thought I loved her too , I know I rebounded but carried on , I do respect her and have never been behind her back. Weve enjoyed holidays together etc and have a good histoty up too press. The trouble started when my ex moved round here last year, at first she would ignore me (she no longer with her ex)then she tried to converse with me, I quickly told her what she had done to me was s*** and that she was casual, I didnt want to speak to her at all and thought that would be enough to put her off, it wasnt, she speaks to me whenever she sees me and seems genuinly pleased to see me, as a result Ive fallen soft, I speak back but have started to think less of my girlfriend. My ex did not need to move round here , my current gitlfriend seems to think she had done it as a control thing. I see my ex on a daily basis, I do remind myself that she two timed and used me, I am starting to feel insecure with my girlfriend and think perhaps I should of taken more time out to get over my ex , I dont want to go back to my ex , but im unsure of how I feel to my girlfriend even though we have been together just over 2 years and never really fall ourover anything. She gets on with all my family , they all love her , ahe really is great, but I dont know if she is right for me. I just feel confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2011): I've done the same thing. I jumped into a relationship way too soon, thinking that was going to help me get over the hurt I was feeling.
You need to be open & honest with your current girlfriend. Tell her you are confused & maybe take a break from each other. You might realize during that time, that she is the one, not the woman who broke your heart, but the woman who gave you her's. I wish you all the best!!!
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reader, babygirllovej  +, writes (11 September 2011):
 You are clearly not over your ex and it is unfair that you are in a relationship with your girlfriend. My advice is to stop leading your girlfriend on and end the relationship. Stay single until you do get over your ex.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (11 September 2011):
 Neither of them is right for you. If I were you I would end things, not because of your ex's interference, but because you need time to truly get over her, alone. It is not fair for your current girlfriend to get in the middle of this. One good thing your ex did is to remind you that the strong feeling with your current girlfriend just isn't there. You can have a rebound with any woman, a good one too, but real chemistry is rare.
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