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writes:My boyfriend swears down that he loves me. For the past year or so we keep on arguing because he wants to keep talking to girls on dating sites. I dont think he is going there with the aim of meeting any of them. My question is this. He is very loving to me. Why does he keep visiting dating sites if he loves me? He knows it upsets me and I am never going to like it. He also gets angry when I ask him why he keeps going to them.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 I'm sorry but he's just giving you the words you need to hear to stay with him.
He may "love you" but not enough to "forsake all others"
either he can't cope with the attention and love of just one woman and he needs the ego stroke of many loving him in anyway he can get it, or he just does not love you enough and will leave you when he finds someone who he does love enough.
the only way to fix this is to make him your EX boyfriend.
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reader, AProblemShared +, writes (26 January 2013):
 As harsh as it may be, he doesn't love you enough to have a faithful relationship with you if he's cruising these dating sites. If he's a people person then there are plenty of social networks to meet new people. Dating sites are made specifically for people who are looking to date. And on top of that he's defensive when you question him about it? You should scrap him and upgrade for a more reliable model. I hope this helps and wish you well.
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reader, Jeanette82 +, writes (26 January 2013):
 He does not love or care about you. By the sound of it, he is not likely to change. Leave him to his dating sites. You will eventually meet someone far better, who wont even think about dating sites. He wont do better than you. By him being on dating sites at such a young age, sounds to me like he`s not very lucky at getting girls, and doesnt seem to realize how lucky he was to find you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): He does not love you. His words mean nothing, his actions mean everything. He has no respect for you. Dump him before you start to lose respect for yourself. Treatment like this can eat away at your self esteem.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Because he does not love you enough to not secretly aspire to an upgrade and drop you like a hot potato as soon as he finds it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): "My boyfriend swears down that he loves me."
Guy translation: Your boyfriend tells you what you want to hear so that he can continue having sex with you.
"Why does he keep visiting dating sites if he loves me? He knows it upsets me and I am never going to like it."
If he goes on dating sites knowing that it upsets you, that you're never going to like it, and gets angry when you call him on it, then he DOESN'T love you.
Do you not have one speck of self-esteem, pride and dignity to be grievously offended and insulted by his behavior? Why on earth are you letting this scumbag treat you with such absolute disrespect and contempt?
When will chicks ever get it? Don't believe what a guy SAYS, believe what he DOES.
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