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writes:A guy and I expressed an attraction for one another. We flirted a lot and both felt like there was this "something" about the other that drew us to each other but we never actually dated. He ultimately felt like we couldn't do this and I was going through some changes in my life and I agreed and said I really wanted to be friends; meaning strictly friends and could use his friendship. He sort of blew off the idea of being friends by asking why would I want to be friends because it seems like I don't like him. I don't get that. It was never anything about not liking him. Anyway I've concluded he doesn't want to be friends nor anything more because I don't hear from him anymore. The times I've reached out to him he seems happy about it but I get nothing in return. Any thoughts on why he doesn't want to even be friends?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (8 September 2010):
Because he wanted to be more than 'just friends'. It's almost impossible to become friends when one person feels more for the other in some way. Maybe he was looking for sex, maybe he was looking for a relationship. Either way, he fancied you and knew that unless he backed away, he'd not be able to move on. So he has chosen to move on entirely.
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reader, Inallhonesty... +, writes (8 September 2010):
 I'm a little unclear on what you said when you claim he doesn't feel that you two can date. If he's not interested in dating and he's not interested in friendship then he's probably just looking for something physical. And if you won't give him that, then "friends" are out of the question. Guys aren't going to be buddies with girls they just want to hook up with. He probably seems happy when you reach out to him because he's found a way to get his "fix" elsewhere.
Bottom line hun, I think what you had was a mutual attraction for one another that he wanted to turn into a sexual relationship, no strings attached. I would say move on from this and find someone else that is looking for the same things you are.
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