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writes:I've been seeing a man on and off since April. He still doesn't want to be in a relationship, he's says he's not ready. I've poured my heart out to him and he means the world to me. We've slept together a few times and always have a good time together. We had stopped talking for a month but recently he came back into my life. He said we could hang out together only if I could control my feelings. We went out and ended up having sex. I tried and I can't do that. I miss him like crazy. He said he has feelings for me but isn't ready to act on them. If he cared about me why would he ask me that? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 September 2011):
The only feelings he has for you are ones of lust. He comes to you to have sex knowing full well that you will let your feelings get in the way of your judgement and have sex with him.
You're very right about him - if he cared, he'd have acted on those emotions and feelings some time ago. Therefore, it has to be that he doesn't care for you.
You need to move on. You're with the wrong guy and it'll prevent you from meeting the right one.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 September 2011):
 "If he cared about me, why would he ask me that ?"
Indeed. Good question.
Then, it must mean he does not care about you ( at least not that much ), right ?
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 September 2011):
 To be fair to him he has said right from the start that he didn't want anything deep so I'm guessing you probably thought you would be able to change his mind. I would forget about this guy and move on he's never going to give you what you want and while you are pinning your hopes on him you are closed off to other opportunites passing you by.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2011): He does it to you because you let him.
Restrain yourself and don't have sex with him when he's told you he doesn't want a relationship.
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