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writes:Okaay im a little bit confused might be a bit of a long question. I have a boyfriend who is slightly older than me. We met strangley and randomly, he goes to my school as me (we're both in 6th form but he is in the year above and im starting this year) we had never met in school and i had never seen him around either ill tell it quickly i was sat outside the corner shop near my house with 3 of my friends when him and 2 of his friends walked in the shop i saw him looking over at us and then they walked back off. When i got home i had a message on facebook saying hello and then we started talking he said i was pretty and he would like to meet up and we did a few days later and then started going out. He sends me realy sweet messages texts and on facbook, i went on holiday and his messages couldn't be sweeter and nicer he said how he couldnt wait to see me. I saw him the day i came back off holiday. Ive been home to meet his parents he's met my mum. My friends say every time he looks at me he just stares theyve even got a picture of him staring at me and put it on facebook, he makes me realy happy but the thing is, i havnt seen him since Sunday its now thursday night and im not seeing him tomorrow and i miss him, i asked him if i could see him yesterday and he said he was walking to the cinema with his friends, and then i asked him today and he said he was weight training and then i asked him tomorrow and he said he has football, but when i was on holiday he said he would give up football for me because im more important, but now he cant. Does he not want to see me now because im with my friends is? Is he not interested when im with my friends? and if that is the problem then why doesnt he want to see me with my friends? Or is it me being to clingy? Any advice is appreciatedALSO (added from another question by same poster}Hi, so i dont realy know how to ask this question, i have a boyfriend who's a year older than me im 16 and he is 17, i think he is the one im going to be with for a long time and i may in the future loose my virginaty to him (i havnt yet) he has lost his alrady, and also had sex with quite a few people.The problem is i know its horrible, but how am i supposed to know he hasnt got an std? or how is he supposed to know? and what if he lies about it and says he hasnt?
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reader, Rebeccaa +, writes (2 September 2011):
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 September 2011):
 You saw him on Sunday, and on Thursday you are already freaking out, so yeah, I'd say you are clingy, and needy too. But of course allowances are to be made for your young age, at your age it's generally all or nothing, if someone is into you he should drop everything and want to spend any free minute with you,right ?:)
It's not necessarily so, in fact it can lead to early burn out. Much better balancing your life and including in it ample time for other stuff beyond romance. Just like your bf is doing.
Perhaps you are afraid that if only wants to see you one on one is because he is not interested in you as a person but just in making out / having sex. I don't think so, it's early to say that, maybe he does not feel comfortable yet hanging out with a bunch of strangers, maybe he does not particularly like your friends, maybe he feels that being alone is more romantic....anyway, asking is not forbidden ! Just ask him : I'd like , every now and then, hanging out with you and my friends, why don't you join us for pizza or movies or whatnot so I can introduce you to everybody ? If he is not up for it, at least you will know and you can ask WHY.As for STDs , simple, people get tested. BEFORE being intimate. When you decide to start being sexually active, don't be afraid to ask him to get tested, it's a most normal ( and sensible, and important ! ) thing to do.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 September 2011):
 I think you have the wrong end of the stick I think he's just busy doing things in his life that make him happy. It's important to keep doing your own things when you are in a relationship so you can keep your own identity. As for the STD thing. He will only kow if he has an STD if he gets tested so it is ESSENTIAL that you practice safe sex and use condoms when you do it.
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