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writes: I'd like to know WHY a man can have sex with two women at the same time? I don't mean a threesome. But having two sexual relationships concurrently. One of the relationships is with a woman he's been with for 6 years and he supposedly loves. The second is with a woman he has no history with or no real emotions for and he doesn't see her often or have any "relationship" with her outside of sex. If he loves his long time girlfriend and he's happy with that relationship and the sex is frequent and incredibly good then why is there any need or desire to be with another woman?I'm trying to wrap my head around the fact that a man has a beautiful woman with the whole package who gives him her all and yet how could it not be enough? How could she not be good enough?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2019): When I was engaged to my wife of 30 years I had sex with 3 different young ladies. We lived 50 miles apart and only together on weekends. The others lived nearby, one right in my apartment complex -- she was 15 years older. I was young and horny. My wife was too and admits to having 2 other lovers through her work. I bet there were more -- one was her boss. She had this thing for older rich men. We sort of laugh about now, guess it evened out. I always liked the slutty ones.
He'll probably outgrow it -- we both did. Living in the same house helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2019): I'd chalk it up to evolution. Whether you think he is more or less evolved is another matter!
The males that spread their seed around more are evolutionarily more successful.
Don't forget about those paternity studies that showed that many couples have a child who is NOT the (expected) husband's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2019): If he has already cheated on his girlfriend, this would mean he has already left her. He has already given her up. So, the question is why would he want to stay with her when he has given up on the relationship by cheating? Break a person's heart honestly. Leave them first. Cheating destroys people in ways you have no idea about. There is nothing more cruel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2019): Some men (either married, or in a committed monogamous-relationship) get bored with having sex with the same sex-partner; and because he's selfish and of low-character, he cheats on the lady he wants to keep. While telling one woman how much he loves her, he is messing around with various other women; because he's greedy and his inflated-ego tells him he is deserving of whatever he wants. Having his cake and eating it too! His poor unfortunate mother gave birth to a devil with an unruly penis!
If she knew what he was doing, she'd slap the taste out of his mouth!
Greedy pigs, whom already have girlfriends or wives, think promiscuity and having a variety of partners makes him a stud. He assumes his sexual-prowess is what defines him as a man. He proves his manliness by how many women he can screw and cheat-on. He's really not a man at all. He's of a lower species of creatures; because he has no sense of loyalty, trustworthiness, and lacks real kindness. This is not in all men. It's a "type!"
Self-centered men with no scruples get a thrill out of cheating; because they get a rush out of seeing how sneaky they can be, and how cleverly he can cover his tracks. This kind of man is a good-for-nothing piece of dirt! Women seem to flock to them! He treats his women like property and blow-up sex-dolls. By the same token, the same type would fly into a rage; if he found-out she cheated on him!!! They usually come from a long-line of scoundrels and low-lifes; who think they're studs and players. Legends in their own minds! His dad was a dog, his grandfather was a dog; so the apple doesn't fall far from the rotted-apple tree.
There is no such thing as the perfect woman. There are good women, strong women, and powerful women who know how to pick the right men for themselves. Some are naive, some are needy, and some just like the bad-boys; so they end-up with the scoundrels, low-lifes, pigs, players, and dogs.
Anybody can be a great person, and end-up with one of those rotten-apples. Yet if you're smart, he's a learning-experience; which will enhance your survival-skills. Thereby improving your sense of judgement, sharpens your intuition, and your ability to discern character in the people you fall in-love with. You'll see him coming from a mile away, and you will run the opposite direction! You will tell him to his face you know what he is, and you aren't that kind of woman!
You don't know if you're with the wrong person until they do something wrong. Take note when they are repeat-offenders! We all make mistakes. Depending on the severity of the crime, you decide whether to give him another chance. Some things don't deserve another chance; and love is no excuse to endanger yourself!
If you're foolish enough to stay with someone who repeatedly does dirty-rotten things, and hurts you; then you're a dummy for staying with someone like that! Kick the jerk to the curb; once you've become fully aware that they're no-good for you (nor anybody else), if they're anything like the guys I described above.
If you stay with them because..."but I love him!" Females can't go making broad all-inclusive male-bashing sexist-opinions; lumping all men in with all the bad-choices many women make to hurt themselves. Learn from your mistakes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2019): This probably wont get posted and might be a little hard to comprehend. This has been the best way its been explained to me. Woman are the gate keepers of sex and men are the gate keepers of relationships. Mens sexual imperative is to spread the seed around and woman is to raise kids(ie relationship with the best high value man). Woman can be picky about who they date and have higher consequences if they do end up getting pregnant. The desire a woman has to be in a relationship with a high value man is equivalent to a man wanting to spread his seed if he has those options. (note doesn't have to act on it) However some men who do get into relationship have to sacrifice there sexual imperative(ie spreading the seed) to be in a relationship. This isn't really talked about in society or acknowledge. Often times the woman a man cheats with is less attractive, low quality, doesn't even have the same potential as their current wife or gf. Which I have heard that this increases the desire that man has for his gf/wife. I agree this is not right especially if both partners have agreed that they are together and not seeing anyone. Cheaters are cheaters but this has been how its been explained to me.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (22 June 2019):
 Why does he cheat? Because he CAN. Some people (women as well as men) will take anything that's on offer, regardless of what they already have. They have no real loyalty to ANYONE. All that matters it their ego.
I am left wondering which one of the women you are, op. Whichever one it is, you are on a hiding to nothing and wasting your time. You deserve better.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 June 2019):
 Some people are just not happy or satisfied with stability and monogamy, strange as it sounds. There's nothing wrong with the perfect woman and that's precisely why she's been chosen as the girlfriend. He just needs the extra something on the side because he cannot commit himself to one person.
What's more disturbing is what this tells me about the woman who chooses to be with a man like this. He's clearly got no morals but if she's so perfect and is the complete package then why is she sticking around for a dog like him?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 June 2019):
 Oh she is good enough, she just is not NEW enough. And the other woman is probably not better in bed, just different.
It's in the nature of man ( in the sense of human being ) to be intrigued- stimulated- titillated - challenged by anything that's sexually different- and forbidden. The thrill of transgression. The forbidden fruit. which in practice may very well be a sour , dry, crab apple as compared to , say, a legitimate and regular luscious succulent peach- nevertheless, the peach is well known and allowed , - which makes it more cherished,maybe, but also less exciting.
Of course this is the feeling and reasoning of a selfish, self-indulgent, entitled type of person. Because other people ( most people, I hope ) will have their moment of being tempted, of fleeting curiosity, they will think for a sec " what if... "- but then, if they actually love theor partner , will control the impulse and forget about it right away. But a very selfish person will love himself / herself MORE than anybody else in the world, so won't be willing or able to deny himself / herself a new pleasure, a new toy.
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reader, N91 +, writes (22 June 2019):
 Why are you making it out like the issue is with the GF? The fact of the matter is that the guy is a cheating piece of shit, it’s very straight forward. It’s not about the GF not being enough, it’s the guy who is a selfish idiot who thinks with his dick as opposed to his brain.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 June 2019):
 Why do you presume that it's the WOMAN who isn't "good enough?"
MAYBE, just maybe HE isn't as good of a BF as SHE deserves! Maybe he does it because he thinks he can get away with it.
And why on EARTH would a woman STICK it out for 6 years with a guy who occasionally screws another woman just because? Does she not know her SELF-WORTH?
Why not let him go and find a man who WILL commit 100% to his partner?
WHY waste your time on a guy who can't keep his dick in his pants (expect for sex with his GF).?
WHY give a man "your all" if he doesn't DO the same for you?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (22 June 2019):
Why do you presume that it's the WOMAN who isn't "good enough?"
MAYBE
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (22 June 2019):
 She is enough - he’s just an idiot. People cheat because they can, not because they “need” to. The real question here is why someone would stay with a partner who cheats, if they know it’s happening/happened.
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