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writes:Why is it that even if you and the person you are with are in love why does it still hurt ? i just try to understand that but i can't. i know he love's me. but why do we go through all the thing's we do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sad Girl !!! +, writes (25 March 2010):
Sad Girl !!! is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u everyone for all u r insights on love . it was real nice to here other peoples opinion ..
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reader, Hopefulbutlost78  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I'm sure its not all bad.you cant build a foundation on love, but it can keep you together.ever heard the phrase,"love isnt enough"?.its because it isnt.its great to love someone,and even better when they love you in return.but thats hardly ever the end of it.youre going to have problems,its a fact of life.the good news,is that when a couple perseveres together,they become closer.if its worth it to you,hang in there.its hard enough finding someone you can tolerate,so youre already ahead of the game.
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reader, BettyBoup +, writes (22 March 2010):
 A truly profound question. From going on this website it's clear that, even after we've found our prince charming, sleeping beauty, soulmate or person of our dreams, we're still not content. Relationships are a sheer joy during the so called honeymoon period. When you're finding out about each other and can only see the good in them, any bad traits seem irrelevent at the time. I've read about this time being like a process of healing. The other person sees the good in you and accepts you, this feels euphoric.This inevitably wears off and we are left with our old insecurities and anxieties to deal with again. You can still love this person as much as before, more sometimes as you know them now, but it never seems as perfect as those first few weeks or months.I dont know the answer, I dont think there IS one. It's like life, its a rhetorical question. Just as you think you've found the answer and worked it out, things shift again and you realise how little you actually know, and the process of learning begins again.I think learning to love yourself helps and communication. If you communicate with your partner, you can find out why you go through, what you go through as a couple. You need to learn about how you work as a person to find out how this affects your relationships. That way you will recoginse when problems or issues are caused by you or seem worse than they are to you. Then you will be happier in all of your relationships. But this is extremely difficult and the process will take your whole life. So try to just accept this as one of those things and keep your chin up :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): Love is going to contain the extremes of both sides, extreme happiness and also extreme pain. There will always be pain and sadness but the good times should fully outweigh all the negatives. I know quite a few couples who were married 65+ years and they all said that it wasn't always perfect, they weren't always happy, but they loved the person for better or worse, and they had to work to make the marriage last. If you get in a relationship and think that once you're in love it's all easy after that and that you won't get hurt anymore you're going to be very disappointed because there will be times when you are hurt and you'll have to work through it and grow from it. We hurt to appreciate the good times even more. Don't focus on all the bad and the pain, focus on the happiness and the good times and as long as they outweigh all the pain it will all be ok.
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reader, Tasmanian devil +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Love may feel, like your existing in a fantasy world, but life is more down to earth and almost always complicates situations, with the challenges it throws us, and we don't really have control of either. No ones superhuman, everyone makes mistakes, during love emotions are so much stronger all of this added together=love hurting
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reader, natmarie +, writes (22 March 2010):
 Thayt is such a good question. I often ask this to people. Love is like this horrible feeling of anxiety for me most of the time. Can it really be called love if it hurts? I think that 'real ' love is what people share when they have been together for years and are companions. The other type of 'love' can be so painful it is unbeliveable. i will be watching this question to see what answers people come up with, as I would love to know this too!! Nxx
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