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writes:Ok so as i have said before, i was seeing my ex for 8 month and we split up 5 month ago now. He was my first love and i also lost my v to him. I still love him and i would do anything to get him back. He has said several times that he doesnt want to get back with me but sometimes he acts as though he does. Well recently he has started to be a bit of a dick to me and ignore me and stuff. But when i confront him about it he is really nice and friendly and we have a laugh. I still love him and would do anything to get back with him but i am starting to think now that maybe getting back together will never happen. Another lad has told me that he likes me and he is a really good mate and if i werent still in love with my ex then i would consider him. So i have 2 questions.1) How can i get my ex back?2) Should i go with my mate and see what happens?PLEASE HELP
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reader, RichTea +, writes (23 March 2010):
RichTea is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you to everyone that has left a comment on my question. I am really struggling with moving on and I have tried to ignore my ex. I saw him with another girl today and yeah although they arent seeing eachother and were only talking, i still wanted to rip her heart out. I have also started smoking to calm myself down...
How do i ignore him when we are in the same group of friends at school ???
Thanks again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): FierceBadRabbit gives you good advice and I concur. Take a complete break from dating anyone, altogether.
Listen, your ex bf has chosen to not pursue a relationship with you, here. You said this ex bf was treating you badly. What does that tell you. Does he respect you. No, he doesn`t. And in my books, no respect means no love. So why..while knowing this, can you not accept that?? We`ve all been where you are, at various times of our life, we know it's painful, but you need to mourn this loss, heal, recover and when you are ready...get back out there and keep trying. At your age dating is a selection process..to learning about choosing a future lifelong partner in our lives, when one is an adult . You may date a number of guys, in your future, before meeting the right one.
But, now is definitely not the time to date others, because you have baggage and that's unfair to anyone else who dates you now...and you find yourself still pining away for this ex bf. You would only be dating this other mate, to pacify your pain and boost your self-worth. That confidence and self love should be in place before you date anyone. Good luck, enjoy your youth, have fun...but you have to recover by getting out with good friends who can help and support you during this time of your loss. Lose contact with the ex bf, immediately. The more you talk to him, the longer this process will take. Love yourself enough to understand all this and be strong, girl! Take care...xx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 March 2010):
1 - No matter how hard it is, move on from this ex. He is not the guy for you at all. He has made it clear that he doesn't want to go back out with you. I know it hurts, but don't waste your time on someone who doesn't want you.
2 - It would be unfair to go out with this new guy while you fancy your ex. While you still have feelings for your ex, don't date. You need to get rid of those feelings first. Spend time on yourself instead. There is a guy out there. You'll find him when you're ready to. But you're not ready yet.
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reader, 80sfashionista.  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 i'm in the same situation girl. look just try things out with the other lad. if you really love your ex you gotta let him go. just move on. if you & your ex's love was real it will finds its way anyway :) but you have to move on!
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I would talk to your ex and see where you stand with him once and for all, if theres no future in this for you or you decide that actually you don't want there to be then I would not jump into something with your friend but maybe try spending some more time together and see how you feel.
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