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writes:I never seem to let myself orgasm. Whenever i get close i make my partner stop. What can i do to stop this happening?xx
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reader, opel  +, writes (28 July 2007):
its all about timing trusting and thoughtfulness, going slow and willingness. dont be pushed enyoy and be happy.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2007):
 There you have it, katzkitten. Advice from a lady who had the same problem.
I don't know what other people think but, in my opinion, letting absolutely go with someone you love is just wonderful. Try it. I guarantee you'll want more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): Hi. I have experienced the same thing as you. Something makes me stop or pull away just as I am about to orgasm.However, I did gain from talking this through with my boyfriend. He was very understanding, and now I have orgasms about 50% of the time.Some of the reason for stopping is the increased sensitivity, but if I am honest the main reason is that I was not comfortable losing control. And the more conscious I was about whether or not I could have one, the more difficult it was to relax and let it happen.My advice would be to get your partner involved so that he can keep doing whatever he's doing (same pace, plenty of rhythm, probably much slower than he thinks it should be, etc) when you get close... and at the same time you have to focus on the wonderful sensations in your body and the sex itself, rather than thinking about your orgasm. You have to relax!Keep trying... It will happen, and it'll be worth the wait. Good luck!
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (22 July 2007):
katzkitten is verified as being by the original poster of the question but i get almost there and can feel it, my legs start shaking, and then i kinda stop myself and take my hand away. Would it be because my clit gets too sensitive just b4 an orgasm so it kind of stops me from going on? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2007): trust me girl, you do not want to stop the most amazing feeling in the world! I was with a guy from the age of 18 to 33 and i never let myself go. Now i am in love with an amazing man that makes me crazy!! It is an amazing experience and not only for you but for your partner as well!! Take it from me who was so closed and wasted a lot of years of pleasure that maybe could have saved my marriage, let yourself go!!! Good luck!!
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reader, toocomplicated  +, writes (22 July 2007):
My guess is that you have low self-esteem and don't want to let yourself feel good. There's not much you can do to get over this except "get over it" and try to surround yourself with things that make you happy.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (22 July 2007):
 you just need to go for it chick!! you will enjoy it!! dont be afraid! i suggest having your first one by yourself---you may feel more comfortable this way! get yourself in the mood and go for it--just persevere!! and if you cant do it then try again next time--get yourself comfortable with your body and what feels good for you---you'll soon find out when it feels right and you will go for it!! worrying about it so much is going to make it more difficult--get relaxed, get exploring and enjoy!! let me know how it goes!! xxx
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reader, katzkitten +, writes (22 July 2007):
katzkitten is verified as being by the original poster of the questioneven when i try and do it myself i seem to stop myself and i really hate that i do! any one know how i can make myself carry on? xx
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (22 July 2007):
 I agree with Danielpew to be honest, your boyfriend cant do much about this, its something you have to try and work out yourself.
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reader, toocomplicated +, writes (22 July 2007):
I don't think this is something you should necessarily talk about with your boyfriend, there isn't really much he can do. It sounds like you might have some reservations about him and not fully trust him, otherwise you would probably want to let go and have orgasms. I would look at this first and decide if there are any reasons why you wouldn't fully trust him. If there aren't then it's a matter of simply not holding yourself back from feeling good. If you can have orgasms with him easily, it will be a great addition to your relationship.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (22 July 2007):
I read about a similar case once. Sometimes people (women, mostly) are afraid of being in the hands of a man, and they don't orgasm because they feel this is the ultimate in losing control. I disagree a bit about talking to your partner; he can't do anything about this. I guess the problem would be solved if you felt comfident that letting go is not surrendering everything to him. You know, there are women out there who do have orgasms and have not put themselves entirely into the hands of a man.
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reader, 88jane +, writes (22 July 2007):
What are you afraid of? Have you never had an orgasm?, i think that maybe you make your partner stop becuase as you come to orgasm the feelings become so intense and you suddenly begin to lose control of everything! The feeling of pleasure overtakes your whole body and you cant control it!, i suggest discussing with your boyfriend the reasons why you are feeling this way about having an orgasm and together you can work through it! I suggest just let it happen and if you dont like it then you can discuss with your boyfriend, but i gaurantee you that you will like it and be gutted you missed out on it for so long! go on hun, enjoy yourself!!!! Have fun and take care xxx
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