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writes:Hey everyone..My relationship of 2 yrs with my gf(more like a fiance to me) ended 2 months back!She was my first and i wanted her to be last too!ive always wanted to be with just one girl for the rest of my life..but i broke up with her!Its a very long story..but i don't think u guys would want to read so much..so to be as short as possible..i was in a very emotionally abusive relationship..she being the abuser!At the beginning of our relationship..she cheated on me..but i forgave her..cuz i just loved her so much!and through out these 2 yrs of us being together..she has made me cry a lot..and from the past 6 months almost everyday!she blamed her mistakes on me..and never bothered to apologize..and i would end up patching things by apologizing for something i never did!No matter what i did for her..it was never enough!She was very mean and rude!she would verbally abuse me and call me stuff like "fcking Bstrd" "piece of shit" and lots more..but i loved her so much that i didn't mind being treated like crap!she used me up for her comfort and would remove her frustrations on me!So anyways..after given her almost a dozen chances..i realized that all she needed was a slave by her side who didn't voice out!i loved her unconditionally..but i couldn't take any more of her abuse!and so i told her for the one last time that i was breaking up with her..she pleaded and cried a lot(that's what she did almost every time i gave her a chance to change)She promised me she would change..and asked me for one last chance..but i had heard that a lot of times and every time she would go back to her mean ways!so i ended our relationship on christmas day!She told me stuff like..she wud always be waiting for me and that she was very immature to handle our relationship..and then she said that i should never come back to her even if i forgave her..cuz i wud be happy without her(that kinda made me feel she was relieved that i broke up)so anyways..from tht day onwards..ive been reminded of her hair..her voice,her scent and how we used to kiss and how we used to talk!and i controlled my emotions and tried not to call her cuz i knew i would just go back to square one!But yday..after almost 2 months of not talking with her..i was very weak and i don't know y..but i msgd her..she didn't reply!i cald her..but she hung up!i felt reli shocked..cuz i thot she wud be jumping with joy after seeing my msgs..but it was the complete opposite!then later my mum msgd her wishing her luck for her exams..and she instantly replied saying thanks!so i again msgd asking y she msgd my mum and not me..she didn't reply!That's when i started feeling miserable again..i mean how can she do that?she puts me thru hell for 2 years and then while seperating she says she'll always wait for me to give her another chance..and when i do agree..she ignores me like as though she never knew me!!I feel so stupid now..i was trying to forget her and i was happy for once in my life..and then i go and do this stupid thing again!!Y do u think she did that?why do i miss her even if she has give me sooo much pain?Plz help me guys..Thanks!:)
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reader, SaphiraGold16  +, writes (19 February 2010):
 You miss her because she was your first love it's understandable but you seem like a decent guy who doesnt deserve to be treated the way she treated you.
You just have to move on, she's your past, get on with your future and you will find another woman who will treat you the way you should be treated.
Don't go crawling back to your ex seriously just get on with your life :)
xoxo
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reader, $izZle +, writes (19 February 2010):
 for any relationship to work what is important ...love, respect and commitment. well, let me put it this way when a girl stops loving you and started floating away and curses you like because there was no respect left ... she cheats because she is no longer committed to the relation that you share so let me say that she had all that drama when you dumped her because of insecurity .... not out of love or anything else ... BTW if she did cheat on you that means she probably got over you like overnight or maybe in a day so she wont even bother to pick your call or reply your messages so save your time and move on .... you don't wanna live your life with someone that makes your life miserable because it wont last no matter what you do .... so instead brooding over things, get up on your feat and find someone that makes you enjoy their company ... because when you enjoy each others company it will last
all it takes is just a little time and a whole lot of patience to get over it so hang in there be more patient ...yenjaaay XD
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Wow she doesn't sound like a very nice girl. You miss her because you had committed yourself to this girl for a long time, you did the right thing by leaving her... and in time you wont miss her anymore and you will get over it. Its only natural what your feeling. She on the other hand was probably over it long before it ended, and only cried and wanted you back out of fear of 'change'.. its a comfort thing. But once she realized shes ok without you (which probably didn't take her long) she was fully over it. You obviously cared more then her throughout your whole relationship which is why you still do. But congratulations on making a tough decision that you knew was the right choice. Dont worry, your young... you will meet a wonderful girl someday that will treat you as good as you deserve!
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reader, lionelhutz  +, writes (18 February 2010):
I think you miss her because she was your first love and first loves are usually the hardest to get over. You gave her enough chances, probably more than she deserved. Yes, you had a moment of weakness, but just chalk it up to a learning experience and move forward as you have been doing. You deserve someone who will treat you as good as you treat them.
good luck!
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