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writes:y do i go crazy when my boyfriend doesn't do what i wants him to do? i i mean when i call him he dosen't anwers the phone quick enough , so i get mad so mad that i dont want to be with him. is this normal? i like him alot intill he piss me off. and i lose it! like this one thing that i don't understand that he dose to me; im at work and he supose to call me when i go on my lunch break and he dosen't call so i call him, he dosen't answer but then he calls me back, but lunch break is over. so i tell him over and over than this bothers me and what dose he say" baby im sorry but i was bloog, blog blog. it dosen t matter what he says cause all i feel is that im not inportant enough for u to make this call! and i go off on him and breakup with him, then 2 days later were back together. y do i feel this way? what can i do to calm myself down? sometimes i feel like im going to lose it.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 March 2010):
You have to learn to deal with this, because this isn't his problem. This is your problem. Every time you have a go at him, he will be pushed further away. So then you get angrier, so he runs away even more. You will lose him unless you change. You need to go to counselling to find out why you feel this way. You can't control a man. You can't make him do what you want him to. If you're wanting that, then you're asking him to change far too much. If he can't answer the phone, he can't answer. It won't be perfect, ever. But you will lose the most when he walks away because he can't take it anymore.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (31 March 2010):
 It can be very frustrating when it happens the way as you described it. I guess it is natural to be frustrated when the other person responds in that way.
You will have to learn to deal with your anger. I too feel like that but after the anger is gone , life goes back to normal again.
You need to psyche yourself that the other person is very busy or that he left the phone in another place and as a result did not hear your call.
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reader, Diz  +, writes (31 March 2010):
Consider that by getting angry like that you're just pushing him away .
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reader, cold_as_ice17 +, writes (31 March 2010):
 I feel exactly the way you do. But after losing my serious relationship to this I realized that the biggest problem is in myself. You want ur bf to do exactly what you want & when you want it and when he doesn't you get upset because you feel disappointed. You feel you shouldn't have to tell him what to do he should just know. You need to realize that ur bf's life can't revolve just around you. Try putting yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if your bf was getting mad at you for the same things you are getting mad about. You would probably feel that it is unfair to you. Learn to choose your battles. I don't know if you relationship is really serious but learn that you have to accept peoples imperfections as well as the good.
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