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writes:My girlfriend and I have been dating for about two years now. I have been attending a millitary-esque college and have only just been allowed to go home to see her(about a 3 hour drive). She is a senior in high school and has two foreighen exchange students living with her, so she is quite busy. The first week that I visited her, she and i spent nearly the whole weekend together and even had a chance to make love, the next day she was distant and did not want to do anything beyond basic kissing, which is not completely unnormal, she gets that way sometimes and it passes. But this weekend, she didn't have time for me, since she wanted to hang out with other friends. I didn't say anything bad, but i did let her know that i was dissapointed that i couldnt see her, since i can only come home on the weekends and i had thought she and i had plans. i did end up meeting up with her that first day of the weekend and things seemed fine. The next day she dumped me, after a long, tear-filled conversation, in which she told me that she doesn't have time for a relationship and that she feels guilty that she can't spend enough time with me. I told her that I would do anything to stay with her, but her mind was made up. She has said that there is a possibility that she and I could date again in the future, but i'm scaried by the uncertainty in that statement. I love her and dont want to lose her. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks girls
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2010): find someone who wants you hun, shes obviously made up her mind
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 October 2010):
 Am afraid if her mind is made up there is not a lot you can do about it. There is no point in ringing her constantly as you will only make her more distant am afraid you just have to accept that her mind is made up and there is no room for you in her life right now. distant relationships are always hard and you really need to be commited. Tell her that you dont want to break up that if she doesnt get to see you every weekend then maybe try every second weekend. Tell her you dont want to lose her and ask her to try and make it work out. If she still says no then am afraid you just have to move on and accept it, i know that it is difficult but time will help just keep yourself busy and arrange to meet friends at the weekends and dont contact her unless she contacts you, give her some space.
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