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writes:I started dating this guy back in May. He is a great guy and I know I care about him, but I always get this feeling in the back of mind if we really should be together. When we are together everything seems great, but when we're not I get random doubts. We get in stupid fights quiet a bit, but we always make up and get past it. I didn't rush into the relationship and when he said I love you, I waited til I was sure. It just sometimes when we are apart I start to question us and wonder if we should be together at times. Then I realize I don't want to lose him and I know I'd hate to see him with anyone else but me. Is the normal? Why do I feel this way? Have you felt this way? I need some advice. Thanks.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (12 August 2012):
It’s quite normal for people to question their life, it may even be a good thing because sometimes people stick with relationships that don’t work because they never think about whether they’d be better off under different circumstances. The thing you need to think about is this: when you question whether you should be together, do you ever come up with reasons why you shouldn’t? If yes, this may be indicative of issues in this relationship that you need to look at. But if you just ask the question in your mind, and it’s just a random doubt without any real substance, and ultimately you answer it by concluding that you’re happy and want to be with this boyfriend, you’re probably just fine as you are and don’t worry too much about it.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (12 August 2012):
 I think if you are having doubts that you should take a break from one another and see if this is something you really want. Usually when people who love one another are away from each other, they want to see each other more...they do not start having doubts.
I think it is normal not to want to lose someone we care about, but deciding whether or not someone is right for us in the long run is a lot different. Give yourself some time and space to decide.
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