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writes:why do guys pretend to like me, but they only want sex from me. then they start being rude and disrespectful. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): I have the same problem. Men pretend to like you so you'll have sex with them. Sex for a man is completely different to what its like for us women. Men don't have to feel any emotional attachment before they have sex. Most people seem to think that if you take your time and get to know a guy before you have sex with him it will work out better. Not sure if I totally agree. I was seeing a guy for eight months before I had sex with him. As soon as the deed was done he said " well thats the mystery over" and it was all downhill from there. The way he treat me changed just like you described. We only lasted about another week. People tell me the same as they're telling you that you're picking the wrong kind of guys or you need to look somewhere else to find one. Its not really helpful information because they don't tell you where to find a man who isn't like the ones you've met before or how to spot him. If we knew where to find decent men we would have picked them in the first place! I know it hurts like hell to be treat like this and i wish I had some better advice to give you. I try now not to get too attached to men I date. I try and keep in mind that they don't really have any feelings for me anyway which helps me stay a little more detached. It's not the solution to life long happiness but it helps to avoid the pain. I hope you have more success than me in finding someone who will treat you with respect.
Good Luck x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (23 June 2010):
I've got this feeling you're picking the wrong guys. Look carefully at the type you're attracted to.
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reader, Elydiese +, writes (22 June 2010):
You're picking the wrong guys to get involved in you pick the players
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reader, Gothic landscaper  +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Im not like most guys i see the darker side of things, 99 percent of the guys youll find are like that. The way to do it is to tell them your not giving yourself out until there is a ring on your finger and that 99% will turn and run. I am like that and youd be suprised how many women will run from that statement. Hope this helps.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (22 June 2010):
 Because you're attracted to the wrong kind of guy. Start looking in another direction girlfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2010): Because he is so horny he will do everything he can to just fuck you. He will go as far as act like your friend, take you out, buy you drinks or dinner, tell you how amazing you are etc to only want to fuck you. If you happen to be hot and it was hot he may want more. Some guys will want to maybe date but I think as anyone might think who would want to date someone if the first thing they do is have sex? I have not had a good relationship yet that has worked out on the basis of sex. Basically if you want to find a real guy make sure you communicate first way before that date. Say "I am looking for a relationship and nothing too heavy right away. Its fun to have sex but I don't want a relationship based on sex." etc...So you first of all need to put your foot down and know that if a guy wants sex, 9 times out of 10 thats all he wants nothing more unless its communicated otherwise. Good luck and don't put yourself out there and make yourself seem like thats all you want also. Flirting and ways to dress can make a guy think thats all you want too.
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reader, Tashie08 +, writes (22 June 2010):
because they are just tryng to see if they can just have sex with you,then the majority won't wanna see you again so they act like that. If you are seleping with them, 1 i hope you have used protection,and 2, stop this. The only way a guy is ever gonna respect you is if you spend time just getting to know each other first Take your time and wait a month or 2 to get to know him. if he goes off then you know he was only after 1 thing, if he's serious about you, he'll wait 4u. I hope this helps x
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